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Best wishes to all! Meeting

School is over and we end up next year, January 10, 2011!

Many greetings to you and greet you with some photos of the green section of the December 21, 2010.

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Health Status

(Note: This article is part of a series of Notes in circulation BDSM)

In any BDSM activity practice is always very important to consider the health of all participants.

Even a simple allergy, maybe one of which is not yet known, can have unpleasant consequences if not heavy. Previous operations or illnesses suffered already healed may leave sensitive details, for example, to a certain person be detained in a particular location (just standing) or may be not only annoying (and slightly painful) but very dangerous given his state of health . Even on a cold with stuffy nose and then the relative difficulty Breathing should be taken into account, such as any chronic conditions of high or low pressure.
E 'is necessary to pay attention to any chronic health conditions and well-known, and to any minor ailments at the time. Even a poor digestion or a headache is to keep in mind.

I will not be here trying to list all the possible medical conditions as possible but I hope you have grasped the sense of attention needed to avoid putting a person in a position of greater risk than necessary. It 's a matter of common sense, attention and information.

why it is appropriate that before implementing any BDSM activity all participants communicate to their partners clearly and without any possibility of doubt on their state of health, without exception.

remember that in the practice of BDSM would definitely exclude all states of alteration due to the consumption of alcohol or illegal drugs. In general terms, the practice of BDSM should be avoided in any state of physical alteration (or psycho- physics) in which the person has reduced or distorted sensations on your body, no matter that this altered sensation derived from eating (even moderate) alcohol, by some substance used, side-effect of medicines taken for other reasons, from a state of exhaustion, a state of distress emotivo/emozionale. 
Se non siete in grado di capire cosa vi sta succedendo, potete troppo facilmente mettervi nei guai e soprattutto mettere nei guai anche le persone con cui avete deciso "giocare" con BDSM. Meglio evitare.

Dato che, se siete adulti, potete bere a vostra discrezione in qualsiasi momento, potete sempre scegliere di bere in un momento in cui non volete fare del BDSM e se fate cosi non solo non vi togliete nulla ma date a voi stessi il modo di godere fini in fondo (ed in momenti diversi) sia della pratica BDSM sia del vostro vino, birra o liquore preferito.

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Limits

(Nota Bene : Questo articolo fa parte di una serie di Note di BDSM in pratica )

In the practice of BDSM such limits are those activities that at least one partner does not want to.

Every person who wants to practice or have practiced BDSM activities (among all the conceivable) that do not interest him or that are very unpleasant or even the disgusting result. At a time when researching and evaluating a partner to practice of BDSM, it is best that both people are aware of the activities that they would like to do together but also to activities that are not welcome.

Avoid the mistake of assuming that certain something that you would want and / or can not find it particularly strange or heavy to be accepted without any problems from your partners. This is a light that can lead to misunderstandings and unpleasant in my experience these misunderstandings happen more often than you think. The way to solve this issue is to reflect well on their "limits" BDSM and then communicate them clearly (of course without ever being disrespectful, I do opinionated arrogant).

communicate well with your partner (or potential partner) and to evaluate the "desired" that the "non-lo-I-never" is an important part of preparation to practice BDSM itself, both in case you are looking for a few hours' play "BDSM, and if you want to start a BDSM relationship more permanent and structured.

I want to clarify that when we speak of "limits" includes both those activities that a certain subject (or subject) do not want to suffer, is a dominant activity that does not want to impose. This is a perfect symmetry. Do not forget that even a ruler chooses what he wants or does not want to do and has all the right to avoid any activity that is boring, unpleasant or just do not interest.

The word "limit" might suggest to some "missing" from the person but NOT 'for that at all. There is no mention of limits as failures but instead speaks of the right of choice of everyone, a right which should never be missed as we speak (as always) of an activity BDSM Consensuale .

E' consuetudine fare una distinzione tra limiti relativi (soft limit) e limiti assoluti (hard limit). Questa distinzione deriva dal fatto che a molti dominanti piace testare, spingere o forzare i limiti della propria/o sottomessa/o ea anche dal fatto che a molte sottomesse o sottomessi piace riuscire a donare al dominante qualcosa che non ritenevano di poter dare (superare un proprio limite). Spesso l'intenzione è quella di fare crescere la sottomessa o il sottomesso usando una attività BDSM che sia "estrema" per quella certa persona (anche se non lo è in modo assoluto). Il mio parere è che fare crescere non è mai sbagliato, specie in un rapporto BDSM. Può essere molto stimolante ed eccitante per entrambe i partner quando il dominante propone (o pretende) una attività che è stata dichiarata come un limite relativo, specie quando lo fa in modo progressivo (iniziando dal poco ed andando verso il molto) e senza mai forzare la situazione. Non dimentichiamoci però che è sempre la sottomessa (o il sottomesso) che ha il diritto di veto ( la Consensualità ), quindi io credo che proprio nel il spingere i limiti di un sub stia una delle più eccitanti e difficili sfide per un dominante.

Per questo è consuetudine distinguere tra limiti relativi (soft limit) intesi come attività che in determinate situazioni potrebbero essere forzati e limiti assoluti (hard limit) not seen as activities that are to be proposed at all (much less you can think of force), under any circumstances and for any reason.

Some students even use a "list of limits" in writing, which can be read with a partner (or potential partner) to inform him / a. In some situations, some practitioner asks the partner to complete a pre-printed list of restrictions, including dozens (or hundreds) of different BDSM activities. Who compiled this list of limitations must report all activities which it considers limits (absolute or relative) and possibly also the activity that you like or instead are very welcome. As a rule, this list is written to the limits is from / by the dominant / submissive by / o and then the lists are read by both people.

The list of limits has a practical use (especially when the partners do not know well) but it must be said that this draft "the shopping list BDSM" is boring, not very stylish and also quite anti-exciting. Getting to know what the partners want, and do NOT want to do is of course talking (or writing) so free with him / her, even though in this case, you need time and attention to grasp the salient points.
The real advantage of the list of limitations is that it allows greater speed of communication between people who do not know and in my opinion is be recommended only if you are looking for a casual partner to play few hours.

Who is interested to use the list of BDSM limits, to seek advice with a search engine the words "bdsm checklist decides to find useful results in English. I do not know whether there are versions in Italian, but it does not matter because I think these lists are a very limited.

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Christmas

Giovedì 9 novembre 2010

Cari genitori e cari bambini,
nella nostra scuola presto ci sarà un incontro di Natale.

Per la sezione dei rossi e dei verdi avrà luogo il 21 dicembre alle 17.00 e per la sezione dei azzuri e dei gialli , il 20 dicembre alle 17.00.

Questo incontro di Natale non è solo uno scambio di auguri ma è soprattutto un momento importante per la comunità scolastica. Un' opportunità in cui i genitori, i bambini e il personale della scuola si trovano insieme per rafforzare il senso di appartenenza e condiviere un momento comune della Our instructional design, " I, we, community."

each section will be organized in a special raffle to enjoy during a nice time together and to exchange Christmas greetings. The idea of \u200b\u200bbingo is to give something rather than receiving. Every parent is invited to prepare your child with a song, a poem, a chant, a ballet or a drawing, anything that we can share with others. For parents who want and are available at the school can come together and make your child a gift for bingo.

you there!

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Sottodiciotto Film Festival 9 to 18 December 2010 Torino Film Festival Documentary

Wednesday December 8, 2010

To all lovers of cinema, I point out the excellent programming Sottodiciotto Festival which was inaugurated this evening. It 'the only festival in Europe who thinks a 360 degree view of the representation of youth. This year more than 400 films and numerous national premieres. For children, there Sarano proiezoni of Bugs Bunny, Tom & Jerry and Pluto and for children under 4 years, the Festival offers a double bill, Baby Special with the adventures of Grillo musician and a choice of the cult series "Shaun life as a sheep" by Nick Park, creator of Wallace & Gromit. The second program is Christmas Special with esilarente The Grufalo .

For information, I invite you to visit: http://www.sottodiciottofilmfestival.it/

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A tragedy waiting to happen

The fatal accident happened at Gagno brings to the fore once again how dangerous that stretch of road today, following the two-channel input to Piombino, the risk and greatly increased especially for pedestrians who must cross the street.
is not my intention to make no reference to the dynamics of the accident where he killed Ms Nina (surveys of law enforcement will be to shed light on what happened), nor even to the people involved, it is My intention, however, condemn the behavior of all those drivers (which are few) so that irresponsible and outrageous use the stretch of road from Florence to round like Sol a racetrack. It 'just to see how, going 70 km / h speed, and not by snail already over the limit, you will be' stripped 'from vehicles traveling at around 100 km / h are careful not to slow down in the vicinity of' crosswalk of Gagne.
Who knows where they are going so fast, I wish these gentlemen and ladies time to reflect on what they earn with those speeds, 2 or 3 minutes? Surely no more than 5.
90 km / h, which is perceived as a threat, including reaction time and stopping distance required to stop about 60 meters, enough to do damage to themselves and to others. Worth the risk? More and more
convinto che le strade le rendiamo pericolose noi (automobilisti, motociclisti, ciclisti, pedoni) con i nostri comportamenti spesso incoscienti. E' opportuno però trovare velocemente una soluzione per rendere più sicuro l'attraversamento dei pedoni ( un sottopasso?) al Gagno e nel frattempo non farebbe male qualche sanzione pesante ed esemplare da parte delle forze dell'ordine per dare una calmata a coloro i quali pensano di essere dei Fernando Alonso o dei Valentino Rossi.

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Roles

(Note: This article is part of a series of notes BDSM in practice )

Many people who practice BDSM (or even just imagine living it) use a clear definition of roles .

A role is a label, a definition that a declaration of intent. Some call themselves (and are defined) Master, master, sir, Mistress, Master, Lord, dominant, slave, slave, slave, submissive, subservient, rugs, poodle, penitents, boarders, switches, fetisch, leather, etc.. ... just to mention some of the most common but there are roles (and used) many others.

What exactly is a role rather than another is intuitively clear that it is difficult to define with sufficient precision. As always in BDSM the only two things that really count, in my opinion, are on one side what each person wants what every other single person feels more authentically his own, namely the "thing" that allows it to be considered deeply satisfied a. If the difference between a Master or Mistress or Master or Pardon the one hand, compared to a slave, slave, slave, submissive / a hand is very clear and obvious distinction between what is a Master or Mistress and a distinction between a and a master Domanín becomes just a matter of feeling and personal expression. There has been endless discussions and arguments on these issues (and many more will be made) because every person has a way of looking at it and (almost) every point of view is legitimate. I say that not all role definitions are legitimate because in BDSM devono sempre valere la consensualità e la sicurezza mentre le definizioni di alcune persone (ed i loro conseguenti atteggiamenti pratici) tendono ad escludere a priori consensualità e sicurezza e questo non è accettabile.
La realtà dei fatti è che, secondo me, non esistono definizioni assolute ed universali dei i ruoli ma contemporaneamente le definizioni che ogni persona da e vuole dare ad un ruolo sono la "legge" che regola e deve regolare questo argomento, ma solo fino a quando vengono rispettate consensualità e sicurezza.

Ci sono anche persone che praticano il BDSM ma rifiutano per se stessi ogni ruolo ed etichetta, sentendo che questi "titoli" servano solo come facile hold for those who do not know anything about BDSM and really is not very interested in understanding what it is. These people believe that, in any case, is neither a role nor a way to make the substance of a person even if the practice BDSM. In other words they believe that the essence of a person is something much more complex and multifaceted than just a label stuck to the comfort of those not so interested in understanding. I think exactly like this and reject any role or title for myself and if someone describes me as a role I choose to ignore it, but obviously this is my choice that comes from my personal tastes and judgments.

A role can be useful, especially for people who are starting or for people who want to "play" a BDSM scene with other people who still do not know. Sums up a role in broad terms what you can expect that person to do (or should do) and what that person will never do (and that we would never do) and in some situations this is an advantage for everyone.

Before a BDSM scene is important to make clear to all participants in the role that each person wants to play. The role of course is not all that needs to be clarified but there are many other details (some of which will be processed in my next articles, see list in the main ) but in this context to clarify the role rapprenta a starting point to begin to know.

Even in the knowledge that come from a distance via the internet (on sites, chat, e-mail, SMS or even telefonicamene) is important to clarify the role that each person wants to have. In these situations it is important to clarify many other things, the first of which I think is if you have or do not intend to go even to the "real life". I think there is nothing wrong with having relations at a distance, relationships that can also never go in terms of real encounters, but which are felt and lived deeply and honestly. The distance relationships are certainly not less than one report "live" ma sono sicuramente molto differenti dal "metterci la faccia" di persona per avere degli incontri veri. Quello che viene detto con una punta di disprezzo "il virtuale" per me è una cosa rispettabilissima ma solo a patto che sia proprio quello che tutti i partecipanti desiderano e cercano (e che soprattutto non esca MAI dalla consensualità e dalla sicurezza).

Un pericolo reale dei ruoli è che, a mio parere e specie nelle relazioni a distanza, il ruolo può diventare troppo importante per tutte le persone coinvolte. Le persone si trovano a dovere comportasi sempre in un certo modo ed a dover dire (o non dire) solo certe cose e questo porta facilmente ad un coinvolgimento cosi profondo che passa i limiti del sano nel senso della mental and emotional stability. In other words, especially in a relationship at a distance, it is all too easy to get carried away by the "role" and lose sight of common sense and the considerations which I expressed in the article on ' SSC.

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Expectations and needs

(Note: This article is part of a series of notes BDSM in practice )

Any person who is attracted to BDSM has strong personal reasons.

Often all stems from some inner impulse and satisfies some deep need of the individual. Well before you get to act in real life is quite normal that many people develop rich fantasies of what want (or vorrebero) do or have done in a BDSM context. It 'also normal that BDSM remains only a wonderful fantasy for a long time. For some people, BDSM still remains at the level of fantasy and never go in practice and this too is perfectly normal, provided that there is ever confusion between what are and what is fantasy and reality can be.

E 'well aware of the fact that we imagine a rich, personal and private BDSM us charge expectations on how it should be the realization in practice of BDSM (and how NOT to be expected, according to our point of view .) Expectations are not a bad thing in absolute and are often the immediate boost to put into practice some BDSM practice and we make it desirable.

Speaking of expectations about BDSM is necessary to pay attention to two things that can become dangerous.

First, any expectation that we may lack realism.

This means that we can expect from the practice BDSM (or our partners) something that you can not get in the real world. It 'something that happens primarily because it has little practical experience and for this we have no benchmarks to judge whether a particular practice (or a certain behavior) is realistic or not. But even though we are already experienced, in my opinion should be always pay attention to what our expectations, since every situation (and any partner) has its own characteristics and is very easy to expect (and want) something that can not be obtained.

also expectations may conflict with the expectations of our partners.

We must never forget that our partner has the legitimate expectations may be different and at odds with ours.
One of the reasons why a clear and honest communication is very important in BDSM (and when you assemble a single "scene" game is generally in the relationship) is precisely the need to deal with the expectations of partners while our offer. I emphasize the word "proposed" in BDSM as it is never possible to impose anything that is not wanted by all the partners (the acronym in consensual SSC).

Each person also has needs as well as having expectations.

If expectations are the desires, needs a person is something deeper and very important. A need is something absolutely necessary for our survival, both physically and in terms of emotional or psychological or social. Eating, drinking and sleeping are physical needs, we can not live without. Respect, care and consideration are some psychological needs and even if you can survive without these things, when we lack belittled and crushed and we live badly.

Even in the practice of BDSM, there are needs, some are universal as the need for respect and attention, others are specific to each individual. For each person it is very difficult to distinguish between the desires, expectations and needs and is obviously not possible to establish strict rules and absolute to say what is and what is the other one is always a matter of personal opinion. It happens that is sometimes considered the needs of simple (but very strong) desires, while at other times it happens that some needs are not clear, it remains unexpressed and lived to be at best a fantasy. It 'also possible that our expectations will grow too much and lead us away from our real needs.

Always try to distinguish between our fantasies, our desires, Noste expectations, and our needs is difficult, but necessary to understand What we would really like the practice of BDSM and avoid dangerous confusion.

Speaking of practical needs of a BDSM scene is therefore strongly recommended a good and honest communication before the same scene that takes into account the expectations of the needs of all partners involved.

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I receive this information by Coogen Today November 22, 2010:

I must point presentation in Turin during the Torino Film Festival a documentary made in recent months Pisacane elementary school in Rome, attended largely by non-Italian students (but many Italian-speaking people) and hence repeatedly attacked by the media and parts of Roman politics.

The title of the documentary "an Italian school (
http://unascuolaitaliana.blogspot.com/ site), will be screened Tuesday, November 30 at 17:00 Greenwich to the cinema, Wednesday, December 1 at 12:00 pm always Greenwich, and then Thursday, December 2 at 22:00 at the National Film . As

Guests will be in Turin during the festival some Roman friends who work in a school
Pisacane, especially Cecilia Bartoli (psychologist) and Marco
Carsetti (sociologist), we are trying to find
opportunity to meet and discuss common problems of the school, education and integration (especially on the role of the school today), from Rome to Turin, from elementary to university.

The bottom line is that if you want to save what good is the Italian school, it must be from the last. The starting point for discussion could be the screening of an excerpt from the documentary "Diary of a teacher" (1973), Vittorio de Seta. In addition

There remembrance for the next round tomorrow Tuesday '23 November at 21:30 at over 364 per Peschiera training for management committees of nests and nursery and for a discussion on the activities' of the nursery table. We will talk about 'even second language.

Beatrice

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A scene of BDSM BDSM

(Note: This article part of a series of notes in circulation BDSM)

In BDSM practice is called "stage" when the real activity takes place.
scene
The word is also used to indicate a total of all the people, places and dates of BDSM. I will not speak of the BDSM scene in this general sense but I'll give hints of how to organize and conduct a single scene of BDSM play in reality.

A scene can take place in private (domestic intimacy and present only the people involved) that in public (at a party where there are other people watching and can potentially intervene). There are also cases in which there are both intimate and public appearance. As always there are people involved who choose and decide if their BDSM is a private matter between them and their partner or if you wish to perform and be seen by other people (and even by those who decide to be observed).

The concept of "play" BDSM limited only to certain moments or scenes is not a universal rule that applies to everyone.

In many cases, BDSM is experienced by a person at all (or almost) all aspects of his life in private and / or on public occasions. It is possible to imagine all levels of involvement, from more than simple until you get to lifestyle choices that are commonly known as BDSM 24 / 7 (understood as 24 hours per day, 7 days a week, without interruption or exit from the "role"). In these extreme cases, it is more correct to speak of "roles" to interpret (such as master and slave or master and slave in a scene) it's moments of "game". These are lifestyle choices, and each must judge if this is what he or she really wants .

In all cases, always apply the general considerations about Security , Ability, Responsibility , Trust, Respect and SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) .

From these considerations are born all the practical aspects of BDSM .

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Notes in circulation

After speaking in general Security , Ability, Responsibility , Trust, Respect and having described the concepts that are the symbol SSC, I would like some information on how to conduct and organize a practice session of BDSM.

Speaking of these arguments do not invent anything but I will refer to concepts and practices disseminated and shared in many international community of BDSM. These topics are treated in many specialized sites and even WikkPedia. has a series of articles about it. If you read English, you can for example read this article and those related.

write a series of articles in which I will speak (in Italian) of these topics

• A BDSM scene
• expectations and needs
• Roles
• Limits
• State The health
• safeword
• type of "game"
• tools and clothes
• Duration
• security measures
• Sexual contact
• After the scene talk again (debriefing)

I should point out that this "scheme" or "way of seeing" the practice of BDSM is not the only, nor is the best possible .
not make the mistake of thinking all the BDSM you can just as focused on moments of the game well separated from the rest of life. Although many people live their BDSM as moments of "evasion" separated from the rest of their lives, for many others this distinction is meaningless because they live it in their daily lives, without showing it to anyone going to tell anyone. Here I intend to mention is those people who live the BDSM is total (for as those that make a life choices generally defined as "24 / 7"), both of those people who, without feeling the need to decide the most extreme and visible, are based on family relations and sexual and agreed to an exchange wanted control (for example, people who live in the Domestic Discipline - Domestic Discipline - or similar relationship or where the woman develops an active form of control on the man who accepts the Fenice)

I will use the "logic" above only as a method narrative, that will use it to say a few things that can be useful to all people interested in BDSM.

Everyone will obviously make an effort to decrease these topics in own reality and in its context.

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Small example of everyday incivility

13.11.2010 Letter sent today to "La Stampa" and "Reppublica"

am a mother of two small children and are tired of the rudeness of motorists endure every day in Turin. More and more angry in the face of such indifference. There is a day where I do not verify this simple fact: the pawn has absolutely no meaning for the average motorist Turin and the green light even less.

Every day, bring my children to school Walk courageously and for this, I have to go through the various pedestrian crossings with traffic lights that are there to regulate traffic and make us understand the priorities on the road, but evidently no one notices. And if you're with small children (on foot or in wheelchair) not think that this is an advantage, on the contrary! Every day, the risk of getting taken in by a rude motorist (or unconscious?) That just can not see us when we cross the green (thus the above) and I hold (which tell us, grab) my daughter's hand. And I scream my indignation aside, I can not do much. The worst I also feel that it is often annoyed by these people. What to do when to take the lead is really a police car that crosses the road on pedestrian crossings, with the green of course, as happened to us lately?

Sometimes, a pedestrian witness of the scene invites me to write down the license plate number but how do I do when I manage my anger and fear of all? I'm seriously thinking munirmi ripe tomatoes and rotten eggs to throw against the culprits to calm a bit 'so my frustration and feeling a bit' less helpless.

Beatrice, mother of Matthew (6 years) and Victor (3 years)

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SSC: Safe, Sane and Consensual

The acronym SSC is often cited by those who practice or want to practice BDSM.

SSC stands for Safe, sane and consensual and is derived from English (which stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual).

These three characteristics, namely Safety, Health and consensual, are the basis of any good practice BDSM.

Only when you have all three of these features you can really speak of BDSM, and when even one should rather talk about something very different.

In the practice of BDSM there must be no dangerous or violent behavior. It is also necessary to exclude any problem of insanity or mental instability as well as alterations due to drug use or alchol. Finally, it is necessary that all applications are accepted and wanted by both those who make it to the recipient.

These three characteristics can and should also be used to evaluate the conduct of all persons engaged. If you see that a certain person does not take sufficient account of safety in what he does or what the claim is made or fails to demonstrate health, or even ignore the consensual, this person is doing something really bad for her and for all persons involved be to be submissive / dominant, and that mere spectators.

For these reasons, all serious and aware of BDSM practitioners have exactly these features to all their partners at the same time require exactly these features of all their partners. And this is (or should always apply), without exception.

It is no coincidence that the SSC is one of the first things that are explained to those who want to start practicing and that the symbol is quoted so often.

This code and the concepts it expresses are in use for some time in the international community BDSM. It represents a kind of the philosophy with which they dealt with the concrete practices of the modern BDSM. This "philosophy" is not perfect but it is a good reference handy.

E 'must be added that some of the most advanced and demanding practitioners have criticized the concept of the SSC. Some practitioners of BDSM rejects it entirely, criticizing the approach for several reasons. These criticisms may be valid (at least in certain contexts and for some people): This article does not discuss, but I intend to discuss them in the future.

E 'must also add that some BDSM practitioner uses a different philosophy as a practice that has initials RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). This other philosophy is far more extreme in concept (and as a practice) and could not be suitable for all practitioners. In particular, in my opinion, is ill-suited to those who looks for the first time in this world. To speak of the distinction between SSC and RACK and differences between them as the first thing you need to understand the way symbol is given to the SSC. As for the rack, I intend to devote a future article on this topic.

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will try to describe the way it expresses SSC talking about all three terms that compose it.

Secure - that presents no real danger .

The goal of those who practice BDSM and not to cause danni permanenti.
Ogni pratica fisica (ed ogni pratica psicologica) del BDSM deve essere misurata valutando quali conseguenze ha (o può avere) su chi la subisce. In generale, se si valuta che ci sia un rischio troppo elevato di una ferita permanente o di un danno psicologico serio, questa particolare pratica è da evitare oppure è da attuare in un modo che riesca a controllare efficacemente tutti i rischi e che li riduca di molto. Parlando di modi per ridurre e controllare il rischio, per fare un solo esempio tra quelli possibili, si può attuare una certa pratica "recitando una scena" come se si stesse interpretando un film, senza usare oggetti e situazioni realmente pericolosi ma solo "facendo finta" che la cosa stia succedendo.

The principle of safety in the BDSM can be described very clearly, but too general. What really matters is the 'practical application of this principle and practical application must take into account many factors.
One of these factors is the way in which all individuals involved in assessing what is a "permanent damage" and what is a "real danger". There are many actions and / or practices which are obviously extremely dangerous but in relation to various other practices "intermediate" is unfortunately not possible to establish a universal yardstick that applies in all situations and contexts as possible. Let us never forget that anyone who decides to act, far subire a qualcun'altro una pratica BDSM, si deve sempre e comunque prendere tutta la resposabilità di quello che fa, e non esistono (ne possono esistere) giustificazioni del tipo "ma tanto quella era una cosa sicura"

Uno altro dei fattori da considerare è il modo in cui ogni singola persona coinvolta reagisce fisicamente (e psicologicamente ) alla singola pratica.
Per esempio, per un certa persona ricevere venti colpi di frusta non è oggettivamente un danno permanente, dato che per sua costituzione fisica le conseguenze fisiche (segni, lividi, pelle spaccata ecc) sono relativamente lievi e scompaiono in pochi giorni. Mentre per un altra persona ricevere due colpi di frusta sono oggettivamente un danno permanente, since it was set up to just two shots of him / her because of the heavy physical consequences going on for several weeks. Also do not forget that the reaction to a given case depends heavily on the physical and psychological situation of the person, partner that requires it to him, the context in which the sufferer, from his experience level and the level of emotional involvement (eg, if you feel "fell in love with / to" or is very "attracted"). Since it is not possible to determine absolute which practices are safe and which not, is never wrong step by step without demanding all at once and is never wrong to stop and not to insist in a practice that provokes strong reactions too. If you keep the situation under control, you can always repeat it another day in another situation, but if something really unpleasant happens it will hardly be possible to regain the trust of those who should suffer the same practice.
As another example of the various possible reactions, if you want to use a psychological threat that affects a phobia (eg fear of spiders) you must take into account the depth of the phobia in person. To a certain person the fear of spiders may be just a deep feeling of discomfort or disgust, while the other is so afraid of spiders deep immediately trigger extreme reactions and uncontrolled, which are to be avoided.
Two other factors to note are the opinion of those who require skills and practice BDSM.
Who wants to practice BDSM as dominant as ever should first learn what does the practice want to impose. Knowing how to act and act both as NO is essential in the practice of BDSM. Who dominates
must also know how to judge situations correctly without being never drag them from the arrogance they lust. A proper assessment of what is happening, what might be imposed and what is definitely NOT the case to claim it is equally important in practice of BDSM.

Sano - which is in good physical and mental health .

The term of the acronym sound SSC has several meanings.

The first is not to exacerbate a shortage of "health" that do not give up "damage" physical.
E 'vital to take into account the health of those who suffer and who also requires practice. If this is evident for the more severe diseases and physical problems, keep in mind that even a simple allergy to latex (yes, there are people who are allergic) can have very unpleasant consequences during a scene. Just have a stuffy nose for a common cold has its consequences, dato che la persona respira peggio di quello che farebbe normalmente. E' necessario spiegare bene le proprie condizioni di salute generali e del momento come è necessario informarsi di quelle del partner.

Il secondo è di non attuare pratiche che rovinino (o rischino di rovinare) permanentemente lo stato di salute fisica o psichica di chi le subisce.
Questo concetto si sovrappone a quello di Sicuro di cui ho discusso prima.

Il terzo significato è che qualunque persona che abbia seri problemi psichici (sanità mentale) quasi sicuramente non sta facendo BDSM ma sta solo dando corso al suo problema mentale. Anche se pochi trai i praticanti del BDSM hanno una competenza professionale per valutare una malattia mentale, all you need to pay attention to the behavior of people with whom we play from this point of view.

The fourth meaning is that any person who is impaired because he drank alchol (or because he has taken drugs) almost certainly is not doing BDSM and is not even able to do so, at least until it has completely disposed of the booze (or the effect of drugs). It is never a good idea to mix the "play" BDSM with alcohol, and it is no coincidence that often those who wish to "play" (or as dominant as submitted) do not drink at all.

Consensual - action approved and allowed by all the people involved .

You can talk about BDSM only when it is consensual, that is, when all practices are permitted and approved by all involved, from both subs from dominant.
BDSM is not violence and abuse is not even true or abuse. The subject or the subject always has the last word of veto and it is he / she chooses to accept a practice or not, also can change your mind at any time (ie, decide that a certain thing no longer has his approval.) Consent (or non-consent) can not be presumed but implied it should be expressed clearly and without any possibility of confusion.
dominant Each has a duty to respect always agree (or lack of consent) of any subject. Consent can not and should not be extorted blackmail of any kind or genre. Consent must be freely given and must always be informed, that those who suffer must know what will happen and what will not happen for sure.
To implement the consensus is necessary to communicate honestly and clearly what will happen (or rather what can happen) and also what will not happen ever, and this should be done before starting the "game" BDSM itself. It 's very important to speak well and without haste and take time to understand the expectations and wishes of their partner. Normally the
submissive or sottomessao always has the option to stop the action of the dominant at the same moment in which it occurs. Often this is done with the use of SafeWord, which agreed that if those words are from the sub immediately stop the DOM. (Eg "red" = stopped immediately).

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The SSC is not a magic formula that makes a practitioner of BDSM automatically better than another. The SSC is instead a practical but imperfect yardstick that should serve as a tool to assess situations and behaviors, first of all, their behavior and then the other username. The symbol should not be used as a slogan to hide behind (and then act in a completely different way) e neanche dovrebbe essere usata solamente come "marketing" (leggi pubblicità) al BDSM verso chi al BDSM non è per nulla interessato o come "giustificazione" per che facciamo. L'SSC non solleva mai dalla responsabilità personale di ogni praticate, sia che domini sia che sia dominato. La responsabilità personale per quello che facciamo nel BDSM (o per quello che permettiamo di farci fare ) viene prima di ogni altra cosa e l'SSC si può vedere come un criterio pratico di esercitare la propria responsabilità.

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Appointment Coogen November 23, 2010

I remember an appointment organized by major COOGEN:

Tuesday, 23 November 2010 at 21:30 in cso Peschiera 364

for training of representatives of management committees and especially for sharing / discussion on the work of the nursery table .


Beatrice

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I, we, the community

These days, the meetings are taking place with the teachers and parents of each section. Last night, the teachers and Lina Rosy section of the greens, we have presented the topic on which we will work this year in school.

Last year, we reflected together on the issue of children's rights, on respect for human rights be recognized. With the desire to broaden the discussion, this year the topic chosen is " I, we, the community . Our school is part of a project involving thirty-three schools of Turin titled " Identities in Dialogue." It will work, just like last year, with children in small groups, in respect of each of them first. The idea is to make them think autonomously making in their applications, so that they can freely express their opinion.

The theme of communication as the school is very important because it is an educational community . The school must therefore work closely contact with families to ensure that our children understand the importance of respecting others and sharing.

This meeting concluded with a variety of general information:

1) The library will reopen in December with an opening party for Christmas.

2) The school has endorsed a plan by January and there will be a do volunteer in the civil service (graduate) that will help us manage our library and will do activities with children.

3) Another project related to the area 7 "The garden at the table" verano involving all the school children of four years.

4) The teachers are asking us kindly advise when a child returns after an illness before 8:50 one day before returning to the booking of the meal. Otherwise, there will be a meal replacement.

5) In the fall you need to do preventive controls against lice and advise the teachers in case of problems. Once treatment is started, the child may return to school immediately.

6) The second language (L2), which until last year was the English is no longer in programming for children of 5 years. But there is an ongoing discussion between several of the parents to organize language laboratories. The school is willing to make available a room after school hours (from 16.30). Of course, we will inform you if this project contretizzera.

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News Coogen November 2010

Dear Beatrice,

I transmit the letter alderman on the issue of second language at the municipal nursery , with the prayer of the widest possible dissemination.

this occasion:
- you remember the evening of November 9 in the training course which will intervene in Peschiera 364 'also DSGA
- We are working on the proposal to amend the law on the study of the Piedmont Region
- November 17 there will be 'strike University' and the province of Turin will be 'even strike for the entire school day. We adhere to attend
- November 23 evening training for management committees of local nurseries and kindergartens. In the evening we meet the parents of the nursery table and urge you to discuss the issue of a second language.

We therefore many opportunities to meet us!

Good weekend

Silvia

LETTER:

Alderman Joseph Educational Resources Borgogno
The manager pc Administrative Management Sector - Giuseppe Note
The Director - Aldo Garbarini

Subject: approach to a second language in school Children

Egr. Alderman,
we are now and the year to November scolastico è iniziato da ben due mesi. Nel frattempo le insegnanti “bi-linguiste” sono rientrate in sezione e i bambini cinquenni non hanno potuto usufruire di momenti di approccio verso una seconda lingua diversa dall’italiano.
Come abbiamo già ampiamente ribadito duranti i diversi incontri in cui avuti sul tema in oggetto, il Coordinamento Genitori Nidi Materne Elementari Medie di Torino
ritiene che sia fondamentale per un bambino un approccio precoce con una seconda lingua. La qualità delle scuole materne, che era esempio per altre realtà sia italiane che estere, è fortemente diminuita nel corso degli anni per i continui tagli al sistema educativo nel suo complesso. Dopo avere di fatto eliminato le insegnanti specialiste, residual left now for a circle, now the teachers have been cut bi-linguists. We wish to emphasize that our will can not 'claim to be a form of union in nature, but the quality of education of our children is strongly determined by the training of teachers. In past years the City has invested heavily in training of specialists and two linguists. Today with cutting specialized figures was in fact wasted previous investments. With the opening of
Materne table will have the opportunity to examine some issues of fundamental importance, but today we want to ask you to convene a meeting before the end of November COOGEN and open to the management committees to explain the process of his Department with regard to the second language for children of five years.
We are writing to the date of such meeting may be fixed as soon as we announced to the many parents who have spoken and we have stimulated in writing.

Waiting for positive response Yours sincerely


Turin, November 5, 2010



Silvia Bodoardo
for Coordination Parents Nursery, Kindergarten, Elementary and Middle
Turin

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Respect is always essential, first of all the rest

Forse non sarebbe neanche il caso di ripeterlo, ma il rispetto è una cosa molto importante, specie in un rapporto BDSM.

E' importante per chi si sottomette rispettare Who / dominates and this is something quite natural in this kind of relationship, it is almost a part of it. Respect for those who dominated it almost goes without saying dominates and can not be otherwise.

But it is equally important to respect a ruler who is always dominated / a.

This aspect of respect in BDSM is often not fully understood and is not put into practice, at least by some people. Some dominant

(whether master or mistress) to be handled without respect to the / their domain. Some did not have a very clear difference between the respect a person and feel inferior to that person.

These two things are very different but in terms of emotions and habits can be difficult to put into practice this difference.

Let me be clear here I'm not talking about any of the "moments of BDSM play, it's a" BDSM scenes and BDSM relationships nor all-encompassing but balanced. In these situations, the "lack of respect" may indeed be an integral part of the experience is often rightly sought by both partners. But it is always a lack of respect on and limited to certain situations that are shared between the partners and there is always communication.

From then and for the rest of the article, I'm talking about a basic attitude of lack of respect that only a few dominant hanno.

Dal punto di vista delle emozioni, potrebbe sembrare che se un master (o una mistress) non tratta sempre la sua schiava come una forma inferiore di vita, come una nullità che si può e si deve calpestare e maltrattare senza alcun riguardo, questo master (o mistress) stia facendo una cosa errata, che non va daccordo col suo essere dominante e superiore.

Ma non è affatto cosi.

Dal punto di vista delle abitudini, succede più o meno a tutti che in un  "rapporto di gerarchia" (sul posto di lavoro, per esempio, ma non solo) c'è l'abitudine a subire la mancanza di rispetto di chi sta più in alto di noi ed ad infliggere mancanza di rispetto a chi sta più in basso di noi.  Questo genere di comportamenti vengono fatti in modo automatico, senza pensare ne ai motivi, ne al loro significano, ne se sono giusti o sbagliati.

Ma non è affatto detto che debba per forza essere cosi.

Il BDSM è sempre una questione di scelta: niente e nessuno ci obbliga veramente a sottometterci ad un altra persona cosi come niente e nessuno ci obbliga veramente a prenderci la responsabilità di (ed a fare tutto il lavoro necessario per ) sottomettere un'altra persona.

Lo facciamo perché ci piace farlo e soprattutto perché decidiamo di farlo.

La situazione è totalmente diversa rispetto ad un "rapporto di gerarchia" quindi non è affatto necessario affermare la propria "superiorità" (vera o presunta che sia) usando la mancanza di rispetto nei confronti di chi sta sotto. Nel contesto BDSM, usare la mancanza di rispetto per di affermare una presunta "superiorità" in realtà è un comportamento debole, che ha solo l'apparenza di un comportamento dominante mentre non lo è affatto.

Ricordiamoci sempre che il BDSM, tramite le "scene " o i momenti di gioco condivisi, permette anche di vivere tutte queste cose in modo da non entrare mai nella mancanza di rispetto VERA per una persona.

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Trust is not is automatic, but is constructed in the dominant hard time

Un aspetto molto importante di una rapporto dominazione /sottomissione è la costruzione della fiducia reciproca.

The type of relationship that involves BDSM search in physically dangerous practices that can be combined with emotions and feelings that can be very upsetting. The extreme intensity is something that is sought by all the people who are interested in BDSM, every person (in his own way) tries intensity that is physical, emotional, intellectual, emotional or all of these aspects together.

The temptation is to dive head first, is to forge ahead and get carried away in the "fire" of a practice or a relationship without being too much to think about the consequences. This can go very well, even being overwhelmed can be part of the experience sought and has its value and its taste.

Before you rely on someone / a in this way, you need to take time to know each other, talking (maybe even things outside of BDSM) and try to evaluate the person before us. Who wants to submit to observe and study the person who may him / her submit, subjugate those who want to observe and study the person who will eventually subdue him / her.

At this stage of the relationship we build a very important aspect, mutual trust based on knowing the other person .

For example, if you need to understand that self-control and has dominated since, whether it is necessary to know the practices that dominated then realize that, you should understand what kind of submission that particular subject / wants and to imagine what kind of submission or may accept, you need to understand if that subject has emotional problems / emotional, and what type and severity.

All this (and other) can not be completed immediately, you can not achieve this just riding the momentum of an interest profound and instantaneous.

A dominant that wants absolutely forge ahead, someone / a pushing and trying relentlessly pursues something more from the subject is undoubtedly one of his charm. That is the charm of the strong-willed and who is not satisfied claims or the charm of the woman demanding and alters that does not allow her time to any one who claims devotion and unstinting.

But this way of conducting the game has a flaw, it does not allow a ruler to know the characteristics of those who are dominated (even if only to use them better) and allows those who are dominated to clearly assess the characteristics and qualities of those who would dominate.

Going fast does not allow to build trust.

In my opinion, anyone who claims that a submissive / a merely "abide immediately" to its requests have an attitude suspicion, why do not you care any way to build trust and mutual knowledge necessary to run a real BDSM relationship.

Pay attention then to those who behave like that, because those who seek a "submission snapshot" in my opinion has no desire to learn anything but just want a game more or less superficial and funny.

Let's be clear, to me there is nothing wrong in trying just a fun game, God forbid. But almost inevitable problems arise when one partner starts to believe the words of the other without seeing that this person does not care to build the confidence of knowing it.

If you want you can try to compare the initial stage of a BDSM relationship with a "crush" adolescent.

It is certainly not the same thing but in terms of emotions and feelings the comparison holds very well. The moment you click the Falling in love, instinct is to let go, to burn immediately stops without taking the time to really know each other and build mutual trust. Almost the same thing can happen in the early stages of a BDSM relationship and the risks are similar, in fact are even greater given that in the BDSM genre of particular individuals (and emotions) certainly has a greater degree of risk.

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perhaps have a license to do anything?

Many dominant men and women have a way to do extremely hard.

What could be more exciting for a man who subjected a Mrs. strong-willed and insensitive as it is a total nullity, was bullied mercilessly, as it imposes its whims laughing at him and cruelly punished?

What could be more exhilarating for a woman subjected to a strict and inflexible master who uses it for his own pleasure, the vents on your every whim and inflicts terrible punishment for the slightest failure or simply whenever you decide to do so ?

A ruthless demeanor and attitude has a lot of sense in a BDSM relationship.

should make a very important distinction : What is a style and temperament but all else are responsibility , know-how and self .

should never be confused.

Each has its own dominant style and his way of doing.
Some have the attitude of teachers / teachers and / or to instruct the submissive willingly / in explaining what they want and not what they want. Others have a strong-willed temperament and just expect total obedience (without explanation) by the submissive / a. Some have an attitude almost paternal (or maternal) and deal with the submissive / a as an adult with a child / to be corrected. Some are whimsical, others are patient (usually only up to a certain extent), others insist on very few issues, others are interested in different situations and / or practices. Some are very experienced, others have less. Some dominate through some form of psychological pressure, others rely heavily on physical punishment. Some require a structured system of rules and punishments. Others simply demand what they want at that moment and to punish their opinion and will.

But things that are indispensable to any ruling, whatever its style and the way they are responsibility, self and know-how .

Even a cruel mistress, willful and capricious must never fail to be Responsible, self-control and ability to practice BDSM sceglie.

Anche un master severo, inflessibile ed esigente non deve ma mancare di essere resposabile, autocontrollato e deve saper fare le pratiche BDSM che sceglie.

Se un dominante si fa prendere dalla sua stessa durezza e arriva a mancare anche solo in una queste tre aree, allora sta agendo male, sta per mettere in pericolo il suo sottomesso/a e (se non l'ha già fatto), sta per cacciarsi da solo/a in grossi guai e forse quello che fà può anche arrivare a scadere nella semplice violenza (che non è il BDSM!) .

E' necessario che questo sia ben chiaro sia a chi domina sia a chi è sottomesso.

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You are responsible for what you do? The technique

Siete responsabili di quello che fate ?

take responsibility for what you do is a concept out of fashion forever. The person who steps forward and says openly, "I was the one" is considered just a fool.

But in the practice of BDSM things should be very different for very good practical reasons.

Each "play" BDSM presents risks, things that can end badly (even if only by accident or misfortune).

If you think for a moment, you really leaving a whip (or one) if you already know that this person will never admit to have made a mistake, to have given a blow too hard or have given in the wrong place?

If you think for a moment, let yourself really tie one (or a) you've already heard phrases like "You have your hands (or legs) insensitive? your fault that you're not strong enough / o!!" or who regularly shakes the ropes a lot and have apparent coincidence?

Please be aware that this is not about the authority of a ruler, nor his right (in the broadest sense, and always in the context of consensual relationships) to decide what to do and to always be submissive to / a.

The point is that a dominant (or dominant) has the right to dictate anything to the submissive / a but should not evade the consequences of what they choose to do. If

avoids the consequences of his actions, if he proves to shake off the responsibility for what happens, if it gives immediately the blame for what happened to the submissive / a, then this person is not a dominant but it is only a coward, in my (not so) humble opinion. If
behaves so is not only a master but a dangerous man who snatch what they can (or is it just a fool who does not know what they are trying to do), if you act like this is not a mistress but it's just a dangerous selfish / egocentric who cares only about herself (or is it just a fool who does not know what they are trying to do). Also according to my (not so) humble opinion.

this should reflect on all those who choose to dominate, whatever the label, which boasted (master, mistress, master, mistress, dom, goddess, divine, teacher etc).

should reflect well on this particular all submissive / slave ee / e, as only possible targets of their own irresponsible behavior of the dominant.

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zero, self-control

BDSM is made of very strong emotions and physical sensations overwhelming.

The actions of BDSM that do or do we leave often come from deep drives, fantasies for a long time we have grown and we are more than happy to practice as soon as we find the right partner and a good opportunity .
But since the
BDSM is not violence, it is necessary that those who act able at any time not to lose his self-control. At a time when self-control is lost, the risk of causing or receiving injury or permanent physical damage becomes very high.

For whatever your personal reason to make a practice BDSM, the thing that you may not want to do it is to cause real damage .

My advice is that you make an honest examination of conscience (if you have not already done) and if you do not mind so if you do not mind the consequences of your "game", I strongly suggest you acknowledge that you not really been looking for BDSM, but you just want an "excuse" to vent your violence, and perhaps of all this there are not even aware of it.

Think about it.

========== Speaking of self-control in BDSM, you can see an asymmetry: if those who are below you lose self-control, this usually does not have harmful consequences (although few concrete There is danger). Often one of the goals (though not the only one) decides to stand under is just managing to leave their self and come to trust completely in the hands of their own / a dominant.

But if the dominant or the dominant lose control, put whoever submits himself (and even themselves, indirectly) in a great danger. A danger that must be avoided and which can be avoided.

Who is dominant in control of what happens. If you take too much of the time, if in excess of alcohol or drugs, if it yields to anger, if he does not know the determination of any action that does or does not care about the consequences of prosecution, this (or this) is making a serious mistake dominant.
Because, in my opinion, when a dominant (or dominant) exaggerates, stop being a practitioner of BDSM and only becomes a violent or violent.

why I say that self-control technique is zero for every practicing BDSM. Even


if the dynamics of domination / submission often leads who submits himself to accept the views of psychological control without criticism from / of the dominant is very important that those who did attempt to assess whether subjects who dominates it has enough self-control or not.
Slaves and submissive, if you see your / a dominant lacks self-control, which is carried away by the emotion of the moment, if you get angry and react instead of act, if you do not care what you do or how to do it, if does not control the consequences of its practices, even if you do not listen to your description of how you have endured and suffered what he (or she) has given you, then probabilmente siete nei guai ... forse vi conviene pensare bene se volte veramente affidarvi proprio a quella persona.

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C'è un motto antico che dice : Conosci te stesso .

Tra i molti significati che sono stati dati a questa frase, c'è l'ammonimento a conoscere i propri limiti,  «conosci chi sei e non presumere di essere di più» . Questo è un principio filosofico generale e chi lo ritiene valido lo applica a se stesso (o a se stessa) per tutte le cose della sua vita.

Da questo motto io derivo quest'altro:  Nel BDSM, Controlla te stesso. Sempre.

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So you want to be a slave: the reality

Vi propongo la mia traduzione in italiano di un articolo che circola da molto tempo in rete e che è diventato una specie di classico sull'argomento "24/7" nel BDSM.

Io non approvo le relazioni BDSM di tipo 24/7 di cui parla questo articolo, per il mio giudizio sono troppo totalizzanti e possono troppo facilmente diventare una forma di abuso e di degradazione, specie se non vengono condotte in modo quasi perfetto. Per me stesso sono sicuro di non volere un rapporto 24/7, sia per i motivo che ho appena detto ma anche perchè, per come io sono e per il mio carattere, sarebbe per me troppo "oneroso" esercitare un controllo di questo tipo su un altra persona e quindi sarebbe solo un fastidio e non un piacere.

For me BDSM can and must be addressed by every person in such a way that is more congenial. There are no universal formulas and no way to live is better than another. BDSMer There are no "real" and "fake", even if someone thinks it might. There are charts on its importance. In my opinion the only "rule" to always follow is to do only what it is that we feel better and banquets. But to do what is best for us is also necessary to know the situations we do not. This article may possibly help to understand something more about the style "24 / 7" in BDSM.

I confess that I have always been very curious, almost fascinated, dai  rapporti 24/7 nel BDSM pratico, da come funzionano e da cosa è necessario fare per entrabe le persone interessate per farli funzionare.  Ho anche avuto modo di conoscere e parlare con alcune persone (per la maggiorparte donne) che cercavano coscentemente un rapporto del genere o che lo stavano vivendo.

Anche se per voi il BDSM 24/7 non è un obbiettivo di vita, come non lo è per me, credo vi possa essere utile cercare di capirne di più.

Il BDSM in generale ed i termini ed i concetti che nascono da esso sono diventati una specie di moda, molte persone si definisco da sole come "schiave" o "schiavi" oppure si propongono come "Padroni" o "Padrone" su siti internet a tema, social network e simili. Non c'è assolutamente nulla di male in questo ed io non critico nessuno, se si propone onestamente per quello che è o che vorrebbe essere.

Parlando con molte persone incontrate sui siti a tema o sui social network ho notato che non c'è molta informazione e neppure molta consapevolezza su cosa è (o su cosa dovrebbe essere) una "schiava" o uno "schiavo", anche solo in teoria. E neppure c'è molta chiarezza su cosa comporta (o comporterebbe) nella vita pratica di tutti i giorni, cercare di esserelo.

Una confusione ancora maggiore la percepisco riguardo a cosa è (o a cosa dovrebbe essere) un "Padrone" o una "Padrona" e qui la cosa si fa addirittura pericolosa dato che Very few people realize, I think, the kind of responsibility and skills needed to become a truly dominant in a practical working relationship over time, rather than just being a happy gaudiente not care about the consequences of his actions and that jumps at full speed from a casual contact to the next.

If you want to have a little more precise idea of \u200b\u200bwhat could be a "slave" in BDSM 27 / 7 real, this article will give you food for thought. At least I hope so:)

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So you want to be a slave: the reality.

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traduzione in italiano di JedriK 

Ho deciso di scrivere questo articolo perchè ho visto molte sottomesse entrare nello stile di vita aspettandosi che ogni cosa sia come in un sogno e perfetta. Non voglio rovinare i sogni di nessuno, o sviarle da questa attività, ciò che voglio è spiegare come stanno veramente le cose. Essere una schiava può essere, e per me è, una vita meravigliosa. E' tutto quello che io volevo che fosse. E' anche più di quello che mi aspettassi, e se qualcuno mi avesse spiegato la realtà prima della mia decisione, questo avrebbe reso la mia transazione molto più semplice. Ai fini di questo articolo, parlerò di problematiche related to being a slave 24 / 7. These comments are from my point of view, which is that of a female with male slave master. In saying this I do not exclude men or slaves Femdom. To them I can not comment based on personal experiences. This is just my point of view from a real experience.

First, there are some things you have to find out for yourself and about yourself. Want to be in this relationship gionro every 24 hours and 7 days each week? Maybe you want to be in this relationship only during the scenes. Maybe you want to play a part only during certain periods of time. There are many ways this can be done, but you understand what is right for you.

Secondly, you must learn to be honest with yourself. Understanding what you do and what not to do and what "might" do. Search within yourself what you really want, and when you find one, be honest with everyone you speak. Do not accept to do something long term that you know that you will not be able to complete. Ask yourself some tough questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate in order to base your decisions on reality and not on someone else's dream of how it should be.

're willing to give 100% control of your life to someone else? The slave 24 / 7 do this. Make a role play, play a part, would enter into this relationship only for an agreed time in which the Master would have total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.

Do you like country music? Maybe you love the Rock and Roll. Consider this. To the Lord that you require the collar just like classical music or other type of music that you do not like. Are you ready to give up and choose to listen only to his music? This kind of sacrifice can be applied to many other things that you currently enjoy. For me, I love old love songs of all kinds, and my Master is in 'Hard Rock. Because of your preferences, io raramente ottengo di ascoltare le mie canzoni. Ma, quando  sono una brava ragazza, a volte, lui mi permette di ascoltare la mia musica, fintanto che ho eseguito i miei compiti assegnati e le faccende che mi competono. Si noti, ho detto "mi permette di". Qualcosa di semplice come l'ascolto della radio è una ricompensa per me. Non è scontato che ti sarà permesso di godere anche solo questo piccolo piacere ogni volta che lo desideri. Queste limitazioni si possono applicare a molti settori della tua vita, come la TV, le scelte di cibo o di amici, un po ovunque ed a qualsiasi cosa! C'è un certo stile di abbigliamento che ami? Certi colori e profumi che non puoi fare mai a meno di indossare? Se il Padrone non li approva, wear a completely different style, with colors that you would never dreamed of. He can decide what clothes to you every morning. You are happily prepared to respect your choices? If he asked you to wear something very skimpy to go to somewhere as simple as a grocery store, you can do this without hesitation? I am lucky because my Master allows me to choose my own clothes most of the time. But at any time should they decide that he wants me to wear something different, I would change immediately. Trust me, this right he exercises it. I learned to always ask Him what He wants me to wear, if we go to a special place.

Are you ready to change your hairstyle, length or color to please the Lord? All this will belong to him once you accept the collar, as it will be for everything that once belonged to you. Not having anything to you. From the moment you have to take His collar, everything is His. It will no longer "your" car or "your" clothes, but "his" on loan to you as He thinks best. If he were to choose so you will not be allowed to wear any clothes. This will be your choice, not yours. Remember, you have waived any right to make these decisions alone.

Do you have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide if you sit on a chair or on the floor. He can tell if you cross your legs, or if you seats with his legs wide open. You'll have to ask permission just to get on the bed, or sit in a chair. In the majority of slaves is given a pillow on the floor for which there is no need to request permission to sit on, but little else. You will also need permission to eat at the table with the Lord.

It 'been a long day at work. Get home and do not want nothing more than relax in a bath and go to bed early. You will not be possible. Being tired, ill, or simply in a bad mood, do not exempt you from the tasks required. You are always required to do: prepare your meal, and go to bed when he tells you to. Retire to sleep usually occurs in a set time, even if you're not ready to go. There will be a "too tired" or "I do not feel good": no such thing. Unless the Lord has not absolved you from your duties and tasks, you will always be responsible for ensuring that their needs and desires are fully satisfied no matter what those needs and desires. Your task is to inform your boss of your physical health. One of your main tasks will be to heal and protect your possessions. You are the most precious possession that he has. As long as you do so that your boss know how you feel, he will ensure that your activities are matched to your skills.

Many come to this lifestyle because trying to be sexually used to serve the Lord in His every whim, and they never took into consideration other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be at the service of your Lord and not to be served yourself. However, being available to him at all times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" does not work in a D / s (Domination / submission). In order to give him pleasure, you also have to express to him your pleasure when you try it. Never heard your master that this is a job for you: something you would rather not do that just because you have to do. If the Lord tells you to do something, it's up to you to question. You will be asked to answer no questions asked. At a later time (if this is allowed in your relationship), you can ask for permission to speak to a level of parity. If He gives permission, this is your chance to ask questions. However, it is important that you ask for in a way that does not call into question his authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.

Tu senti che essere una schiava significa essere costretta, forzata in schiavitù? Pensi di non potere fare questo se non ci sei constretta? Ripensarci. Le Schiave entrano in questo tipo di rapporto di loro spontanea volontà. Questi non sono i giorni della schiavitù forzata, è una questione di scelta. La tua! Tu sei quella che decide di trasferire il tuo stesso potere al tuo Padrone. Tu farai questo, non perché sei costretta ad obbedire, ma perché tu stessa hai la necessità di farlo. Sì, durante il corso della vostra relazione ci saranno volte in cui sarai costretta a fare qualcosa, ma non sarà mai qualcosa che va contro ciò che sei. Il tuo Master può ritenere che obbedire a questo paticolare comando ti aiuterà a crescere come la miglior persona che puoi essere, oppure che ti aiuterà a uscire da una inibizione che hai.

Come è il tuo carattere? Perdi velocemente il tuo autocontrollo quando sei agitata? O sei una persona rilassata, accetti qualsiasi cosa, e poi metti il broncio perché i tuoi sentimenti sono stati feriti? Un Padrone non vuole avere uno zerbino per schiava, né ha voglia di farsi dire come le cose dovrebbero essere. Imparare come e quando dire le cose diventerà molto importante nel vostro rapporto. Se non dici al tuo Padrone quando qualcosa ti dà fastidio, allora non hai alcun diritto di essere offesa. Per quanto meraviglioso e onnipotente Egli may seem, he does not read your mind: unless you do not talk to him, he does not know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell him.

Your self-discipline is very important in this report. You tend to postpone things until the last possible moment? You can not do this when you get to your property. There will be jobs and tasks your Master will assign that he expects them to be made on time from him, not you. The will and the needs of your Lord will be made before yours. Self-regulation is similar to self. Your ability to follow and complete the assignments given by your Lord will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your actions well enough to be able to stay within the limits set for you from Him If He says you can not do something simply, you can not. Do it anyway, and do not tell him anything, does it become a right thing to do. In the case of a relationship Slave / Master, what he does not know CAN 'to hurt you, so how can it hurt the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this relationship. [Translator's note: a white lie (white lie) is a lie that child for a good purpose, especially if the reason is not hurting the feelings of anyone, or the quiet life - can also be not to say something (hit) for the same reasons]

As for the things you want and the things you need: do you know what the difference between the two? If not, I highly recommend you figure out what is the difference before going into servitude. Sometimes the two are difficult to distinguish, but it becomes important that you do it. Your Master will ensure that we will take care of all your "needs", but He will allow that or not your "want" to your liking. Needs are the necessities of life which is essential for us to stay mentally e fisicamente sani. Essi ci permettono di crescere emotivamente e spiritualmente. Se si riesce a sopravvivere senza qualcosa, allora è un voglio. I voglio di solito sono dati come premio per una buona condotta.

Per essere una schiava, ci saranno molte cose che devi imparare ad accettare dentro di te ed a cui devi adattarti. Il tuo scopo primario nella vita sarà quello di occuparti del piacere del tuo Padrone (sia mentalmente che fisicamente) in qualsiasi modo Egli desideri. Per fare questo, tu dovrai imparare bene come è il tuo Padrone. Trova ciò che piace e ciò che dispiace a Lui. Con questo, non intendo solo sessualmente. Imparerai che il sesso è solo una piccola parte del vostro rapporto. Impara to anticipate every need and desire, without being intrusive. His needs and desires include intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other unique things to remember him - the physical is not the same sex. The physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touching, favorite foods, clothes and colors for example. It will be your job to make sure that his physical pleasures are met in every way. Think about the five senses, and make your environment pleasing to all five. Never forget - the most pleasant thing in your environment dovrresti be you.

As his slave, it is up to you figure out what pleases your Master. He should not Always seek the simplest things - you should have learned. If your glass is empty, you fill quietly and discreetly. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure, not yours. Just because he does not notice and do not praise you does not mean that you're doing it the wrong way. Watch your smile. He is quiet? If he seems happy and contented, then you've done well, and you should bask in His good pleasure. Always remember that you do this for him and not to your satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.

As I said at the beginning of this article, I'm not trying to frighten or to scare them away from the world of D / s (Domination / submission). My goal is to make sure that when you get in our way of life, you do it with eyes wide open, knowing what to expect. The road will not be easy. You will need to relearn much of what you said, once taken for granted: things you do without thinking, just like sitting in a chair. These are habit that not even think. Or rather, we do not think until we find a Master.

Everything else you've learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one in which they take care of you. Most of the decisions (Translator's note: in life in general) are beyond your control and that of your Master. But many choices you will stand still. Most bosses want a slave that is intelligent, has a sense of humor, and a will of its own. There is no pleasure in having a door mat that is only immobille or just walked. He will get bored very quickly. Being yourself is the best advice I've ever been given, and I found that this is absolutely true for me.

You'll find that being a slave is all you've dreamed and much more if you enter this life knowing something more of what to expect. If you want to be in this lifestyle, you'll see that where once only walked through life, time to fly a foot off the ground. Part of you that have never been complete to become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.

My hope is that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering into this lifestyle. Never forget that one of the most important requirements for this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will realize that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will be at peace and able to enter in your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept the collar of a Master, waives all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up a lot more than just give up if you were a submissive. Waives all rights in your life. Slave is not only a word, is a way of life, a well-defined action.

You're right, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I learned to love it.

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