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Respect is always essential, first of all the rest

Forse non sarebbe neanche il caso di ripeterlo, ma il rispetto è una cosa molto importante, specie in un rapporto BDSM.

E' importante per chi si sottomette rispettare Who / dominates and this is something quite natural in this kind of relationship, it is almost a part of it. Respect for those who dominated it almost goes without saying dominates and can not be otherwise.

But it is equally important to respect a ruler who is always dominated / a.

This aspect of respect in BDSM is often not fully understood and is not put into practice, at least by some people. Some dominant

(whether master or mistress) to be handled without respect to the / their domain. Some did not have a very clear difference between the respect a person and feel inferior to that person.

These two things are very different but in terms of emotions and habits can be difficult to put into practice this difference.

Let me be clear here I'm not talking about any of the "moments of BDSM play, it's a" BDSM scenes and BDSM relationships nor all-encompassing but balanced. In these situations, the "lack of respect" may indeed be an integral part of the experience is often rightly sought by both partners. But it is always a lack of respect on and limited to certain situations that are shared between the partners and there is always communication.

From then and for the rest of the article, I'm talking about a basic attitude of lack of respect that only a few dominant hanno.

Dal punto di vista delle emozioni, potrebbe sembrare che se un master (o una mistress) non tratta sempre la sua schiava come una forma inferiore di vita, come una nullità che si può e si deve calpestare e maltrattare senza alcun riguardo, questo master (o mistress) stia facendo una cosa errata, che non va daccordo col suo essere dominante e superiore.

Ma non è affatto cosi.

Dal punto di vista delle abitudini, succede più o meno a tutti che in un  "rapporto di gerarchia" (sul posto di lavoro, per esempio, ma non solo) c'è l'abitudine a subire la mancanza di rispetto di chi sta più in alto di noi ed ad infliggere mancanza di rispetto a chi sta più in basso di noi.  Questo genere di comportamenti vengono fatti in modo automatico, senza pensare ne ai motivi, ne al loro significano, ne se sono giusti o sbagliati.

Ma non è affatto detto che debba per forza essere cosi.

Il BDSM è sempre una questione di scelta: niente e nessuno ci obbliga veramente a sottometterci ad un altra persona cosi come niente e nessuno ci obbliga veramente a prenderci la responsabilità di (ed a fare tutto il lavoro necessario per ) sottomettere un'altra persona.

Lo facciamo perché ci piace farlo e soprattutto perché decidiamo di farlo.

La situazione è totalmente diversa rispetto ad un "rapporto di gerarchia" quindi non è affatto necessario affermare la propria "superiorità" (vera o presunta che sia) usando la mancanza di rispetto nei confronti di chi sta sotto. Nel contesto BDSM, usare la mancanza di rispetto per di affermare una presunta "superiorità" in realtà è un comportamento debole, che ha solo l'apparenza di un comportamento dominante mentre non lo è affatto.

Ricordiamoci sempre che il BDSM, tramite le "scene " o i momenti di gioco condivisi, permette anche di vivere tutte queste cose in modo da non entrare mai nella mancanza di rispetto VERA per una persona.

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Trust is not is automatic, but is constructed in the dominant hard time

Un aspetto molto importante di una rapporto dominazione /sottomissione è la costruzione della fiducia reciproca.

The type of relationship that involves BDSM search in physically dangerous practices that can be combined with emotions and feelings that can be very upsetting. The extreme intensity is something that is sought by all the people who are interested in BDSM, every person (in his own way) tries intensity that is physical, emotional, intellectual, emotional or all of these aspects together.

The temptation is to dive head first, is to forge ahead and get carried away in the "fire" of a practice or a relationship without being too much to think about the consequences. This can go very well, even being overwhelmed can be part of the experience sought and has its value and its taste.

Before you rely on someone / a in this way, you need to take time to know each other, talking (maybe even things outside of BDSM) and try to evaluate the person before us. Who wants to submit to observe and study the person who may him / her submit, subjugate those who want to observe and study the person who will eventually subdue him / her.

At this stage of the relationship we build a very important aspect, mutual trust based on knowing the other person .

For example, if you need to understand that self-control and has dominated since, whether it is necessary to know the practices that dominated then realize that, you should understand what kind of submission that particular subject / wants and to imagine what kind of submission or may accept, you need to understand if that subject has emotional problems / emotional, and what type and severity.

All this (and other) can not be completed immediately, you can not achieve this just riding the momentum of an interest profound and instantaneous.

A dominant that wants absolutely forge ahead, someone / a pushing and trying relentlessly pursues something more from the subject is undoubtedly one of his charm. That is the charm of the strong-willed and who is not satisfied claims or the charm of the woman demanding and alters that does not allow her time to any one who claims devotion and unstinting.

But this way of conducting the game has a flaw, it does not allow a ruler to know the characteristics of those who are dominated (even if only to use them better) and allows those who are dominated to clearly assess the characteristics and qualities of those who would dominate.

Going fast does not allow to build trust.

In my opinion, anyone who claims that a submissive / a merely "abide immediately" to its requests have an attitude suspicion, why do not you care any way to build trust and mutual knowledge necessary to run a real BDSM relationship.

Pay attention then to those who behave like that, because those who seek a "submission snapshot" in my opinion has no desire to learn anything but just want a game more or less superficial and funny.

Let's be clear, to me there is nothing wrong in trying just a fun game, God forbid. But almost inevitable problems arise when one partner starts to believe the words of the other without seeing that this person does not care to build the confidence of knowing it.

If you want you can try to compare the initial stage of a BDSM relationship with a "crush" adolescent.

It is certainly not the same thing but in terms of emotions and feelings the comparison holds very well. The moment you click the Falling in love, instinct is to let go, to burn immediately stops without taking the time to really know each other and build mutual trust. Almost the same thing can happen in the early stages of a BDSM relationship and the risks are similar, in fact are even greater given that in the BDSM genre of particular individuals (and emotions) certainly has a greater degree of risk.

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perhaps have a license to do anything?

Many dominant men and women have a way to do extremely hard.

What could be more exciting for a man who subjected a Mrs. strong-willed and insensitive as it is a total nullity, was bullied mercilessly, as it imposes its whims laughing at him and cruelly punished?

What could be more exhilarating for a woman subjected to a strict and inflexible master who uses it for his own pleasure, the vents on your every whim and inflicts terrible punishment for the slightest failure or simply whenever you decide to do so ?

A ruthless demeanor and attitude has a lot of sense in a BDSM relationship.

should make a very important distinction : What is a style and temperament but all else are responsibility , know-how and self .

should never be confused.

Each has its own dominant style and his way of doing.
Some have the attitude of teachers / teachers and / or to instruct the submissive willingly / in explaining what they want and not what they want. Others have a strong-willed temperament and just expect total obedience (without explanation) by the submissive / a. Some have an attitude almost paternal (or maternal) and deal with the submissive / a as an adult with a child / to be corrected. Some are whimsical, others are patient (usually only up to a certain extent), others insist on very few issues, others are interested in different situations and / or practices. Some are very experienced, others have less. Some dominate through some form of psychological pressure, others rely heavily on physical punishment. Some require a structured system of rules and punishments. Others simply demand what they want at that moment and to punish their opinion and will.

But things that are indispensable to any ruling, whatever its style and the way they are responsibility, self and know-how .

Even a cruel mistress, willful and capricious must never fail to be Responsible, self-control and ability to practice BDSM sceglie.

Anche un master severo, inflessibile ed esigente non deve ma mancare di essere resposabile, autocontrollato e deve saper fare le pratiche BDSM che sceglie.

Se un dominante si fa prendere dalla sua stessa durezza e arriva a mancare anche solo in una queste tre aree, allora sta agendo male, sta per mettere in pericolo il suo sottomesso/a e (se non l'ha già fatto), sta per cacciarsi da solo/a in grossi guai e forse quello che fà può anche arrivare a scadere nella semplice violenza (che non è il BDSM!) .

E' necessario che questo sia ben chiaro sia a chi domina sia a chi è sottomesso.

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You are responsible for what you do? The technique

Siete responsabili di quello che fate ?

take responsibility for what you do is a concept out of fashion forever. The person who steps forward and says openly, "I was the one" is considered just a fool.

But in the practice of BDSM things should be very different for very good practical reasons.

Each "play" BDSM presents risks, things that can end badly (even if only by accident or misfortune).

If you think for a moment, you really leaving a whip (or one) if you already know that this person will never admit to have made a mistake, to have given a blow too hard or have given in the wrong place?

If you think for a moment, let yourself really tie one (or a) you've already heard phrases like "You have your hands (or legs) insensitive? your fault that you're not strong enough / o!!" or who regularly shakes the ropes a lot and have apparent coincidence?

Please be aware that this is not about the authority of a ruler, nor his right (in the broadest sense, and always in the context of consensual relationships) to decide what to do and to always be submissive to / a.

The point is that a dominant (or dominant) has the right to dictate anything to the submissive / a but should not evade the consequences of what they choose to do. If

avoids the consequences of his actions, if he proves to shake off the responsibility for what happens, if it gives immediately the blame for what happened to the submissive / a, then this person is not a dominant but it is only a coward, in my (not so) humble opinion. If
behaves so is not only a master but a dangerous man who snatch what they can (or is it just a fool who does not know what they are trying to do), if you act like this is not a mistress but it's just a dangerous selfish / egocentric who cares only about herself (or is it just a fool who does not know what they are trying to do). Also according to my (not so) humble opinion.

this should reflect on all those who choose to dominate, whatever the label, which boasted (master, mistress, master, mistress, dom, goddess, divine, teacher etc).

should reflect well on this particular all submissive / slave ee / e, as only possible targets of their own irresponsible behavior of the dominant.

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zero, self-control

BDSM is made of very strong emotions and physical sensations overwhelming.

The actions of BDSM that do or do we leave often come from deep drives, fantasies for a long time we have grown and we are more than happy to practice as soon as we find the right partner and a good opportunity .
But since the
BDSM is not violence, it is necessary that those who act able at any time not to lose his self-control. At a time when self-control is lost, the risk of causing or receiving injury or permanent physical damage becomes very high.

For whatever your personal reason to make a practice BDSM, the thing that you may not want to do it is to cause real damage .

My advice is that you make an honest examination of conscience (if you have not already done) and if you do not mind so if you do not mind the consequences of your "game", I strongly suggest you acknowledge that you not really been looking for BDSM, but you just want an "excuse" to vent your violence, and perhaps of all this there are not even aware of it.

Think about it.

========== Speaking of self-control in BDSM, you can see an asymmetry: if those who are below you lose self-control, this usually does not have harmful consequences (although few concrete There is danger). Often one of the goals (though not the only one) decides to stand under is just managing to leave their self and come to trust completely in the hands of their own / a dominant.

But if the dominant or the dominant lose control, put whoever submits himself (and even themselves, indirectly) in a great danger. A danger that must be avoided and which can be avoided.

Who is dominant in control of what happens. If you take too much of the time, if in excess of alcohol or drugs, if it yields to anger, if he does not know the determination of any action that does or does not care about the consequences of prosecution, this (or this) is making a serious mistake dominant.
Because, in my opinion, when a dominant (or dominant) exaggerates, stop being a practitioner of BDSM and only becomes a violent or violent.

why I say that self-control technique is zero for every practicing BDSM. Even


if the dynamics of domination / submission often leads who submits himself to accept the views of psychological control without criticism from / of the dominant is very important that those who did attempt to assess whether subjects who dominates it has enough self-control or not.
Slaves and submissive, if you see your / a dominant lacks self-control, which is carried away by the emotion of the moment, if you get angry and react instead of act, if you do not care what you do or how to do it, if does not control the consequences of its practices, even if you do not listen to your description of how you have endured and suffered what he (or she) has given you, then probabilmente siete nei guai ... forse vi conviene pensare bene se volte veramente affidarvi proprio a quella persona.

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C'è un motto antico che dice : Conosci te stesso .

Tra i molti significati che sono stati dati a questa frase, c'è l'ammonimento a conoscere i propri limiti,  «conosci chi sei e non presumere di essere di più» . Questo è un principio filosofico generale e chi lo ritiene valido lo applica a se stesso (o a se stessa) per tutte le cose della sua vita.

Da questo motto io derivo quest'altro:  Nel BDSM, Controlla te stesso. Sempre.

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So you want to be a slave: the reality

Vi propongo la mia traduzione in italiano di un articolo che circola da molto tempo in rete e che è diventato una specie di classico sull'argomento "24/7" nel BDSM.

Io non approvo le relazioni BDSM di tipo 24/7 di cui parla questo articolo, per il mio giudizio sono troppo totalizzanti e possono troppo facilmente diventare una forma di abuso e di degradazione, specie se non vengono condotte in modo quasi perfetto. Per me stesso sono sicuro di non volere un rapporto 24/7, sia per i motivo che ho appena detto ma anche perchè, per come io sono e per il mio carattere, sarebbe per me troppo "oneroso" esercitare un controllo di questo tipo su un altra persona e quindi sarebbe solo un fastidio e non un piacere.

For me BDSM can and must be addressed by every person in such a way that is more congenial. There are no universal formulas and no way to live is better than another. BDSMer There are no "real" and "fake", even if someone thinks it might. There are charts on its importance. In my opinion the only "rule" to always follow is to do only what it is that we feel better and banquets. But to do what is best for us is also necessary to know the situations we do not. This article may possibly help to understand something more about the style "24 / 7" in BDSM.

I confess that I have always been very curious, almost fascinated, dai  rapporti 24/7 nel BDSM pratico, da come funzionano e da cosa è necessario fare per entrabe le persone interessate per farli funzionare.  Ho anche avuto modo di conoscere e parlare con alcune persone (per la maggiorparte donne) che cercavano coscentemente un rapporto del genere o che lo stavano vivendo.

Anche se per voi il BDSM 24/7 non è un obbiettivo di vita, come non lo è per me, credo vi possa essere utile cercare di capirne di più.

Il BDSM in generale ed i termini ed i concetti che nascono da esso sono diventati una specie di moda, molte persone si definisco da sole come "schiave" o "schiavi" oppure si propongono come "Padroni" o "Padrone" su siti internet a tema, social network e simili. Non c'è assolutamente nulla di male in questo ed io non critico nessuno, se si propone onestamente per quello che è o che vorrebbe essere.

Parlando con molte persone incontrate sui siti a tema o sui social network ho notato che non c'è molta informazione e neppure molta consapevolezza su cosa è (o su cosa dovrebbe essere) una "schiava" o uno "schiavo", anche solo in teoria. E neppure c'è molta chiarezza su cosa comporta (o comporterebbe) nella vita pratica di tutti i giorni, cercare di esserelo.

Una confusione ancora maggiore la percepisco riguardo a cosa è (o a cosa dovrebbe essere) un "Padrone" o una "Padrona" e qui la cosa si fa addirittura pericolosa dato che Very few people realize, I think, the kind of responsibility and skills needed to become a truly dominant in a practical working relationship over time, rather than just being a happy gaudiente not care about the consequences of his actions and that jumps at full speed from a casual contact to the next.

If you want to have a little more precise idea of \u200b\u200bwhat could be a "slave" in BDSM 27 / 7 real, this article will give you food for thought. At least I hope so:)

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So you want to be a slave: the reality.

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traduzione in italiano di JedriK 

Ho deciso di scrivere questo articolo perchè ho visto molte sottomesse entrare nello stile di vita aspettandosi che ogni cosa sia come in un sogno e perfetta. Non voglio rovinare i sogni di nessuno, o sviarle da questa attività, ciò che voglio è spiegare come stanno veramente le cose. Essere una schiava può essere, e per me è, una vita meravigliosa. E' tutto quello che io volevo che fosse. E' anche più di quello che mi aspettassi, e se qualcuno mi avesse spiegato la realtà prima della mia decisione, questo avrebbe reso la mia transazione molto più semplice. Ai fini di questo articolo, parlerò di problematiche related to being a slave 24 / 7. These comments are from my point of view, which is that of a female with male slave master. In saying this I do not exclude men or slaves Femdom. To them I can not comment based on personal experiences. This is just my point of view from a real experience.

First, there are some things you have to find out for yourself and about yourself. Want to be in this relationship gionro every 24 hours and 7 days each week? Maybe you want to be in this relationship only during the scenes. Maybe you want to play a part only during certain periods of time. There are many ways this can be done, but you understand what is right for you.

Secondly, you must learn to be honest with yourself. Understanding what you do and what not to do and what "might" do. Search within yourself what you really want, and when you find one, be honest with everyone you speak. Do not accept to do something long term that you know that you will not be able to complete. Ask yourself some tough questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate in order to base your decisions on reality and not on someone else's dream of how it should be.

're willing to give 100% control of your life to someone else? The slave 24 / 7 do this. Make a role play, play a part, would enter into this relationship only for an agreed time in which the Master would have total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.

Do you like country music? Maybe you love the Rock and Roll. Consider this. To the Lord that you require the collar just like classical music or other type of music that you do not like. Are you ready to give up and choose to listen only to his music? This kind of sacrifice can be applied to many other things that you currently enjoy. For me, I love old love songs of all kinds, and my Master is in 'Hard Rock. Because of your preferences, io raramente ottengo di ascoltare le mie canzoni. Ma, quando  sono una brava ragazza, a volte, lui mi permette di ascoltare la mia musica, fintanto che ho eseguito i miei compiti assegnati e le faccende che mi competono. Si noti, ho detto "mi permette di". Qualcosa di semplice come l'ascolto della radio è una ricompensa per me. Non è scontato che ti sarà permesso di godere anche solo questo piccolo piacere ogni volta che lo desideri. Queste limitazioni si possono applicare a molti settori della tua vita, come la TV, le scelte di cibo o di amici, un po ovunque ed a qualsiasi cosa! C'è un certo stile di abbigliamento che ami? Certi colori e profumi che non puoi fare mai a meno di indossare? Se il Padrone non li approva, wear a completely different style, with colors that you would never dreamed of. He can decide what clothes to you every morning. You are happily prepared to respect your choices? If he asked you to wear something very skimpy to go to somewhere as simple as a grocery store, you can do this without hesitation? I am lucky because my Master allows me to choose my own clothes most of the time. But at any time should they decide that he wants me to wear something different, I would change immediately. Trust me, this right he exercises it. I learned to always ask Him what He wants me to wear, if we go to a special place.

Are you ready to change your hairstyle, length or color to please the Lord? All this will belong to him once you accept the collar, as it will be for everything that once belonged to you. Not having anything to you. From the moment you have to take His collar, everything is His. It will no longer "your" car or "your" clothes, but "his" on loan to you as He thinks best. If he were to choose so you will not be allowed to wear any clothes. This will be your choice, not yours. Remember, you have waived any right to make these decisions alone.

Do you have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide if you sit on a chair or on the floor. He can tell if you cross your legs, or if you seats with his legs wide open. You'll have to ask permission just to get on the bed, or sit in a chair. In the majority of slaves is given a pillow on the floor for which there is no need to request permission to sit on, but little else. You will also need permission to eat at the table with the Lord.

It 'been a long day at work. Get home and do not want nothing more than relax in a bath and go to bed early. You will not be possible. Being tired, ill, or simply in a bad mood, do not exempt you from the tasks required. You are always required to do: prepare your meal, and go to bed when he tells you to. Retire to sleep usually occurs in a set time, even if you're not ready to go. There will be a "too tired" or "I do not feel good": no such thing. Unless the Lord has not absolved you from your duties and tasks, you will always be responsible for ensuring that their needs and desires are fully satisfied no matter what those needs and desires. Your task is to inform your boss of your physical health. One of your main tasks will be to heal and protect your possessions. You are the most precious possession that he has. As long as you do so that your boss know how you feel, he will ensure that your activities are matched to your skills.

Many come to this lifestyle because trying to be sexually used to serve the Lord in His every whim, and they never took into consideration other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be at the service of your Lord and not to be served yourself. However, being available to him at all times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" does not work in a D / s (Domination / submission). In order to give him pleasure, you also have to express to him your pleasure when you try it. Never heard your master that this is a job for you: something you would rather not do that just because you have to do. If the Lord tells you to do something, it's up to you to question. You will be asked to answer no questions asked. At a later time (if this is allowed in your relationship), you can ask for permission to speak to a level of parity. If He gives permission, this is your chance to ask questions. However, it is important that you ask for in a way that does not call into question his authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.

Tu senti che essere una schiava significa essere costretta, forzata in schiavitù? Pensi di non potere fare questo se non ci sei constretta? Ripensarci. Le Schiave entrano in questo tipo di rapporto di loro spontanea volontà. Questi non sono i giorni della schiavitù forzata, è una questione di scelta. La tua! Tu sei quella che decide di trasferire il tuo stesso potere al tuo Padrone. Tu farai questo, non perché sei costretta ad obbedire, ma perché tu stessa hai la necessità di farlo. Sì, durante il corso della vostra relazione ci saranno volte in cui sarai costretta a fare qualcosa, ma non sarà mai qualcosa che va contro ciò che sei. Il tuo Master può ritenere che obbedire a questo paticolare comando ti aiuterà a crescere come la miglior persona che puoi essere, oppure che ti aiuterà a uscire da una inibizione che hai.

Come è il tuo carattere? Perdi velocemente il tuo autocontrollo quando sei agitata? O sei una persona rilassata, accetti qualsiasi cosa, e poi metti il broncio perché i tuoi sentimenti sono stati feriti? Un Padrone non vuole avere uno zerbino per schiava, né ha voglia di farsi dire come le cose dovrebbero essere. Imparare come e quando dire le cose diventerà molto importante nel vostro rapporto. Se non dici al tuo Padrone quando qualcosa ti dà fastidio, allora non hai alcun diritto di essere offesa. Per quanto meraviglioso e onnipotente Egli may seem, he does not read your mind: unless you do not talk to him, he does not know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell him.

Your self-discipline is very important in this report. You tend to postpone things until the last possible moment? You can not do this when you get to your property. There will be jobs and tasks your Master will assign that he expects them to be made on time from him, not you. The will and the needs of your Lord will be made before yours. Self-regulation is similar to self. Your ability to follow and complete the assignments given by your Lord will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your actions well enough to be able to stay within the limits set for you from Him If He says you can not do something simply, you can not. Do it anyway, and do not tell him anything, does it become a right thing to do. In the case of a relationship Slave / Master, what he does not know CAN 'to hurt you, so how can it hurt the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this relationship. [Translator's note: a white lie (white lie) is a lie that child for a good purpose, especially if the reason is not hurting the feelings of anyone, or the quiet life - can also be not to say something (hit) for the same reasons]

As for the things you want and the things you need: do you know what the difference between the two? If not, I highly recommend you figure out what is the difference before going into servitude. Sometimes the two are difficult to distinguish, but it becomes important that you do it. Your Master will ensure that we will take care of all your "needs", but He will allow that or not your "want" to your liking. Needs are the necessities of life which is essential for us to stay mentally e fisicamente sani. Essi ci permettono di crescere emotivamente e spiritualmente. Se si riesce a sopravvivere senza qualcosa, allora è un voglio. I voglio di solito sono dati come premio per una buona condotta.

Per essere una schiava, ci saranno molte cose che devi imparare ad accettare dentro di te ed a cui devi adattarti. Il tuo scopo primario nella vita sarà quello di occuparti del piacere del tuo Padrone (sia mentalmente che fisicamente) in qualsiasi modo Egli desideri. Per fare questo, tu dovrai imparare bene come è il tuo Padrone. Trova ciò che piace e ciò che dispiace a Lui. Con questo, non intendo solo sessualmente. Imparerai che il sesso è solo una piccola parte del vostro rapporto. Impara to anticipate every need and desire, without being intrusive. His needs and desires include intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other unique things to remember him - the physical is not the same sex. The physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touching, favorite foods, clothes and colors for example. It will be your job to make sure that his physical pleasures are met in every way. Think about the five senses, and make your environment pleasing to all five. Never forget - the most pleasant thing in your environment dovrresti be you.

As his slave, it is up to you figure out what pleases your Master. He should not Always seek the simplest things - you should have learned. If your glass is empty, you fill quietly and discreetly. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure, not yours. Just because he does not notice and do not praise you does not mean that you're doing it the wrong way. Watch your smile. He is quiet? If he seems happy and contented, then you've done well, and you should bask in His good pleasure. Always remember that you do this for him and not to your satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.

As I said at the beginning of this article, I'm not trying to frighten or to scare them away from the world of D / s (Domination / submission). My goal is to make sure that when you get in our way of life, you do it with eyes wide open, knowing what to expect. The road will not be easy. You will need to relearn much of what you said, once taken for granted: things you do without thinking, just like sitting in a chair. These are habit that not even think. Or rather, we do not think until we find a Master.

Everything else you've learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one in which they take care of you. Most of the decisions (Translator's note: in life in general) are beyond your control and that of your Master. But many choices you will stand still. Most bosses want a slave that is intelligent, has a sense of humor, and a will of its own. There is no pleasure in having a door mat that is only immobille or just walked. He will get bored very quickly. Being yourself is the best advice I've ever been given, and I found that this is absolutely true for me.

You'll find that being a slave is all you've dreamed and much more if you enter this life knowing something more of what to expect. If you want to be in this lifestyle, you'll see that where once only walked through life, time to fly a foot off the ground. Part of you that have never been complete to become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.

My hope is that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering into this lifestyle. Never forget that one of the most important requirements for this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will realize that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will be at peace and able to enter in your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept the collar of a Master, waives all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up a lot more than just give up if you were a submissive. Waives all rights in your life. Slave is not only a word, is a way of life, a well-defined action.

You're right, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I learned to love it.

© 2000 miria_hunter@softhome.net

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BDSM is not violence

Writing this blog is taking me to do (or rather to re-do) a whole series of reflections on BDSM in general and this " slogan "seems very appropriate. Some might say that perhaps it is even banale.

Il BDSM non è violenza.

Il BDSM si basa sulla consensualità.

Consensuale significa che sia chi si sottomette che chi domina sono tutti e due daccordo su tutto quello che viene fatto. La sottomessa (o il sottomesso) accetta ciò che il dominante vuole imporgli e il dominante (o la dominate) sceglie e si prende la responsabilità di cosa decide di fare alla sottomessa (o al sottomesso).

Questa è la discriminante tra BDSM e violenza. E' un concetto abbastanza preciso ed è una linea che non deve mai essere oltrepassata.

La violenza può essere sia fisica che psicologica e dicendo violenza io parlo sia di violenza fisica che di violenza psicologica e/o emozionale.

I think there are clear differences between a BDSM situation and a case of violence.

• BDSM is consensual (all participants agree that to happen), while no one is okay with being raped / abused ao / a.
• BDSM is (usually) be prepared and discussed before attention is paid to both what is not acceptable is what is desired and is often discussed with peace of mind even after it happened, while the violence is not talked about ever , did not speak before it happens and after that happened even becomes a taboo subject.
• BDSM After both partners have the impression they feel very good (although the "shares" suffered or done are relatively bloody) violence after a while people feel much worse, especially the person who has suffered as a rule is bad and you feel dirty, guilty and defiled . BDSM
• In one of the two persons before all control of himself (sempre!) and then checking on the partner. While those who commit violence or abuse is almost always out of control, is transported by anger, hatred or other negative emotion and often not even aware of it.
• In all BDSM participants are interested in the needs, desires and limitations of their partners, while those who commit violence shows no interest it needs to, nor to the wishes of the sufferer.
• In BDSM the person who has control of the rule does not use the fears and weaknesses of the partner psychologically or emotionally injure or harm the person who relies on him (or her) while those who try to encourage violence in any possible way out of control and the fears and weaknesses of those being abused / a.
• BDSM is tried by all partners in a conscious way, while violence is never required, especially by those who suffer.
• BDSM can evolve and grow those who practice it, as violence only hurts the people in cruel ways and dragged heavy physical, emotional and emotional which can last for years.
• BDSM is often practiced by people who are part of a community or people which are also known by others and that is not shy about "putting the face in what they do when violence happens in isolation, separate from any other relationship social. Often no one else notice the violence and accomplished, at least for some time.
• BDSM unleashed erotic sensations on the one hand and privacy on the other as violence between the people and it is not erotic.
• Any BDSM practice can and should be discontinued at any time by the sufferer with a single gesture or a word agreed (SafeWord), while those who suffer violence do not have the power to stop what is succedendo.
• Durante le pratiche BDSM i partecipanti di norma non bevono e non assumono droghe, mentre chi ha comportamenti violenti ed incontrollati spesso ha bevuto oppure è sotto l'influenza di stupefacenti.

Voglio sottolineare che tutto questo non è una lista di regole incise su una pietra sacra e non è neppure la mia personale "verità rivelata" dall'alto. Ogni considerazione fatta ha dei motivi precisi (almeno secondo me) e la cosa più importante per ognuno è cercare di cogliere questi motivi e pensarci un poco sopra.

Molte altre persone le hanno fatte prima di me, in questa forma o in una simile. Non sono in grado di citarle tutte, ma riconosco apertamente did not invent anything from these considerations, I just made a personal synthesis of topics can be found online . If you want your own mind you could search with a search engine "BDSM is not violence", "BDSM is not violence" or "BDSM is not abuse", etc..

you of all this what do you think?