Writing this blog is taking me to do (or rather to re-do) a whole series of reflections on BDSM in general and this " slogan "seems very appropriate. Some might say that perhaps it is even banale.
Il BDSM non è violenza.
Il BDSM si basa sulla consensualità.
Consensuale significa che sia chi si sottomette che chi domina sono tutti e due daccordo su tutto quello che viene fatto. La sottomessa (o il sottomesso) accetta ciò che il dominante vuole imporgli e il dominante (o la dominate) sceglie e si prende la responsabilità di cosa decide di fare alla sottomessa (o al sottomesso).
Questa è la discriminante tra BDSM e violenza. E' un concetto abbastanza preciso ed è una linea che non deve mai essere oltrepassata.
La violenza può essere sia fisica che psicologica e dicendo violenza io parlo sia di violenza fisica che di violenza psicologica e/o emozionale.
I think there are clear differences between a BDSM situation and a case of violence.
- BDSM is consensual (all participants agree that to happen), while no one is okay with being raped / abused ao / a.
- BDSM is (usually) be prepared and discussed before attention is paid to both what is not acceptable is what is desired and is often discussed with peace of mind even after it happened, while the violence is not talked about ever , did not speak before it happens and after that happened even becomes a taboo subject.
- BDSM After both partners have the impression they feel very good (although the "shares" suffered or done are relatively bloody) violence after a while people feel much worse, especially the person who has suffered as a rule is bad and you feel dirty, guilty and defiled . BDSM
- In one of the two persons before all control of himself (sempre!) and then checking on the partner. While those who commit violence or abuse is almost always out of control, is transported by anger, hatred or other negative emotion and often not even aware of it.
- In all BDSM participants are interested in the needs, desires and limitations of their partners, while those who commit violence shows no interest it needs to, nor to the wishes of the sufferer.
- In BDSM the person who has control of the rule does not use the fears and weaknesses of the partner psychologically or emotionally injure or harm the person who relies on him (or her) while those who try to encourage violence in any possible way out of control and the fears and weaknesses of those being abused / a.
- BDSM is tried by all partners in a conscious way, while violence is never required, especially by those who suffer.
- BDSM can evolve and grow those who practice it, as violence only hurts the people in cruel ways and dragged heavy physical, emotional and emotional which can last for years.
- BDSM is often practiced by people who are part of a community or people which are also known by others and that is not shy about "putting the face in what they do when violence happens in isolation, separate from any other relationship social. Often no one else notice the violence and accomplished, at least for some time.
- BDSM unleashed erotic sensations on the one hand and privacy on the other as violence between the people and it is not erotic.
- Any BDSM practice can and should be discontinued at any time by the sufferer with a single gesture or a word agreed (SafeWord), while those who suffer violence do not have the power to stop what is succedendo.
- Durante le pratiche BDSM i partecipanti di norma non bevono e non assumono droghe, mentre chi ha comportamenti violenti ed incontrollati spesso ha bevuto oppure è sotto l'influenza di stupefacenti.
Molte altre persone le hanno fatte prima di me, in questa forma o in una simile. Non sono in grado di citarle tutte, ma riconosco apertamente did not invent anything from these considerations, I just made a personal synthesis of topics can be found online . If you want your own mind you could search with a search engine "BDSM is not violence", "BDSM is not violence" or "BDSM is not abuse", etc..
you of all this what do you think?
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