Vi propongo la mia traduzione in italiano di un articolo che circola da molto tempo in rete e che è diventato una specie di classico sull'argomento "24/7" nel BDSM.
Io non approvo le relazioni BDSM di tipo 24/7 di cui parla questo articolo, per il mio giudizio sono troppo totalizzanti e possono troppo facilmente diventare una forma di abuso e di degradazione, specie se non vengono condotte in modo quasi perfetto. Per me stesso sono sicuro di non volere un rapporto 24/7, sia per i motivo che ho appena detto ma anche perchè, per come io sono e per il mio carattere, sarebbe per me troppo "oneroso" esercitare un controllo di questo tipo su un altra persona e quindi sarebbe solo un fastidio e non un piacere.
For me BDSM can and must be addressed by every person in such a way that is more congenial. There are no universal formulas and no way to live is better than another. BDSMer There are no "real" and "fake", even if someone thinks it might. There are charts on its importance. In my opinion the only "rule" to always follow is to do only what it is that we feel better and banquets. But to do what is best for us is also necessary to know the situations we do not. This article may possibly help to understand something more about the style "24 / 7" in BDSM.
I confess that I have always been very curious, almost fascinated, dai rapporti 24/7 nel BDSM pratico, da come funzionano e da cosa è necessario fare per entrabe le persone interessate per farli funzionare. Ho anche avuto modo di conoscere e parlare con alcune persone (per la maggiorparte donne) che cercavano coscentemente un rapporto del genere o che lo stavano vivendo.
Anche se per voi il BDSM 24/7 non è un obbiettivo di vita, come non lo è per me, credo vi possa essere utile cercare di capirne di più.
Il BDSM in generale ed i termini ed i concetti che nascono da esso sono diventati una specie di moda, molte persone si definisco da sole come "schiave" o "schiavi" oppure si propongono come "Padroni" o "Padrone" su siti internet a tema, social network e simili. Non c'è assolutamente nulla di male in questo ed io non critico nessuno, se si propone onestamente per quello che è o che vorrebbe essere.
Parlando con molte persone incontrate sui siti a tema o sui social network ho notato che non c'è molta informazione e neppure molta consapevolezza su cosa è (o su cosa dovrebbe essere) una "schiava" o uno "schiavo", anche solo in teoria. E neppure c'è molta chiarezza su cosa comporta (o comporterebbe) nella vita pratica di tutti i giorni, cercare di esserelo.
Una confusione ancora maggiore la percepisco riguardo a cosa è (o a cosa dovrebbe essere) un "Padrone" o una "Padrona" e qui la cosa si fa addirittura pericolosa dato che Very few people realize, I think, the kind of responsibility and skills needed to become a truly dominant in a practical working relationship over time, rather than just being a happy gaudiente not care about the consequences of his actions and that jumps at full speed from a casual contact to the next.
If you want to have a little more precise idea of \u200b\u200bwhat could be a "slave" in BDSM 27 / 7 real, this article will give you food for thought. At least I hope so:)
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So you want to be a slave: the reality.
a myriad hunter \u0026lt;miria_hunter@softhome.net>
traduzione in italiano di JedriK
traduzione in italiano di JedriK
Ho deciso di scrivere questo articolo perchè ho visto molte sottomesse entrare nello stile di vita aspettandosi che ogni cosa sia come in un sogno e perfetta. Non voglio rovinare i sogni di nessuno, o sviarle da questa attività, ciò che voglio è spiegare come stanno veramente le cose. Essere una schiava può essere, e per me è, una vita meravigliosa. E' tutto quello che io volevo che fosse. E' anche più di quello che mi aspettassi, e se qualcuno mi avesse spiegato la realtà prima della mia decisione, questo avrebbe reso la mia transazione molto più semplice. Ai fini di questo articolo, parlerò di problematiche related to being a slave 24 / 7. These comments are from my point of view, which is that of a female with male slave master. In saying this I do not exclude men or slaves Femdom. To them I can not comment based on personal experiences. This is just my point of view from a real experience.
First, there are some things you have to find out for yourself and about yourself. Want to be in this relationship gionro every 24 hours and 7 days each week? Maybe you want to be in this relationship only during the scenes. Maybe you want to play a part only during certain periods of time. There are many ways this can be done, but you understand what is right for you.
Secondly, you must learn to be honest with yourself. Understanding what you do and what not to do and what "might" do. Search within yourself what you really want, and when you find one, be honest with everyone you speak. Do not accept to do something long term that you know that you will not be able to complete. Ask yourself some tough questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate in order to base your decisions on reality and not on someone else's dream of how it should be.
're willing to give 100% control of your life to someone else? The slave 24 / 7 do this. Make a role play, play a part, would enter into this relationship only for an agreed time in which the Master would have total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.
Do you like country music? Maybe you love the Rock and Roll. Consider this. To the Lord that you require the collar just like classical music or other type of music that you do not like. Are you ready to give up and choose to listen only to his music? This kind of sacrifice can be applied to many other things that you currently enjoy. For me, I love old love songs of all kinds, and my Master is in 'Hard Rock. Because of your preferences, io raramente ottengo di ascoltare le mie canzoni. Ma, quando sono una brava ragazza, a volte, lui mi permette di ascoltare la mia musica, fintanto che ho eseguito i miei compiti assegnati e le faccende che mi competono. Si noti, ho detto "mi permette di". Qualcosa di semplice come l'ascolto della radio è una ricompensa per me. Non è scontato che ti sarà permesso di godere anche solo questo piccolo piacere ogni volta che lo desideri. Queste limitazioni si possono applicare a molti settori della tua vita, come la TV, le scelte di cibo o di amici, un po ovunque ed a qualsiasi cosa! C'è un certo stile di abbigliamento che ami? Certi colori e profumi che non puoi fare mai a meno di indossare? Se il Padrone non li approva, wear a completely different style, with colors that you would never dreamed of. He can decide what clothes to you every morning. You are happily prepared to respect your choices? If he asked you to wear something very skimpy to go to somewhere as simple as a grocery store, you can do this without hesitation? I am lucky because my Master allows me to choose my own clothes most of the time. But at any time should they decide that he wants me to wear something different, I would change immediately. Trust me, this right he exercises it. I learned to always ask Him what He wants me to wear, if we go to a special place.
Are you ready to change your hairstyle, length or color to please the Lord? All this will belong to him once you accept the collar, as it will be for everything that once belonged to you. Not having anything to you. From the moment you have to take His collar, everything is His. It will no longer "your" car or "your" clothes, but "his" on loan to you as He thinks best. If he were to choose so you will not be allowed to wear any clothes. This will be your choice, not yours. Remember, you have waived any right to make these decisions alone.
Do you have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide if you sit on a chair or on the floor. He can tell if you cross your legs, or if you seats with his legs wide open. You'll have to ask permission just to get on the bed, or sit in a chair. In the majority of slaves is given a pillow on the floor for which there is no need to request permission to sit on, but little else. You will also need permission to eat at the table with the Lord.
It 'been a long day at work. Get home and do not want nothing more than relax in a bath and go to bed early. You will not be possible. Being tired, ill, or simply in a bad mood, do not exempt you from the tasks required. You are always required to do: prepare your meal, and go to bed when he tells you to. Retire to sleep usually occurs in a set time, even if you're not ready to go. There will be a "too tired" or "I do not feel good": no such thing. Unless the Lord has not absolved you from your duties and tasks, you will always be responsible for ensuring that their needs and desires are fully satisfied no matter what those needs and desires. Your task is to inform your boss of your physical health. One of your main tasks will be to heal and protect your possessions. You are the most precious possession that he has. As long as you do so that your boss know how you feel, he will ensure that your activities are matched to your skills.
Many come to this lifestyle because trying to be sexually used to serve the Lord in His every whim, and they never took into consideration other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be at the service of your Lord and not to be served yourself. However, being available to him at all times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" does not work in a D / s (Domination / submission). In order to give him pleasure, you also have to express to him your pleasure when you try it. Never heard your master that this is a job for you: something you would rather not do that just because you have to do. If the Lord tells you to do something, it's up to you to question. You will be asked to answer no questions asked. At a later time (if this is allowed in your relationship), you can ask for permission to speak to a level of parity. If He gives permission, this is your chance to ask questions. However, it is important that you ask for in a way that does not call into question his authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.
Tu senti che essere una schiava significa essere costretta, forzata in schiavitù? Pensi di non potere fare questo se non ci sei constretta? Ripensarci. Le Schiave entrano in questo tipo di rapporto di loro spontanea volontà. Questi non sono i giorni della schiavitù forzata, è una questione di scelta. La tua! Tu sei quella che decide di trasferire il tuo stesso potere al tuo Padrone. Tu farai questo, non perché sei costretta ad obbedire, ma perché tu stessa hai la necessità di farlo. Sì, durante il corso della vostra relazione ci saranno volte in cui sarai costretta a fare qualcosa, ma non sarà mai qualcosa che va contro ciò che sei. Il tuo Master può ritenere che obbedire a questo paticolare comando ti aiuterà a crescere come la miglior persona che puoi essere, oppure che ti aiuterà a uscire da una inibizione che hai.
Come è il tuo carattere? Perdi velocemente il tuo autocontrollo quando sei agitata? O sei una persona rilassata, accetti qualsiasi cosa, e poi metti il broncio perché i tuoi sentimenti sono stati feriti? Un Padrone non vuole avere uno zerbino per schiava, né ha voglia di farsi dire come le cose dovrebbero essere. Imparare come e quando dire le cose diventerà molto importante nel vostro rapporto. Se non dici al tuo Padrone quando qualcosa ti dà fastidio, allora non hai alcun diritto di essere offesa. Per quanto meraviglioso e onnipotente Egli may seem, he does not read your mind: unless you do not talk to him, he does not know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell him.
Your self-discipline is very important in this report. You tend to postpone things until the last possible moment? You can not do this when you get to your property. There will be jobs and tasks your Master will assign that he expects them to be made on time from him, not you. The will and the needs of your Lord will be made before yours. Self-regulation is similar to self. Your ability to follow and complete the assignments given by your Lord will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your actions well enough to be able to stay within the limits set for you from Him If He says you can not do something simply, you can not. Do it anyway, and do not tell him anything, does it become a right thing to do. In the case of a relationship Slave / Master, what he does not know CAN 'to hurt you, so how can it hurt the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this relationship. [Translator's note: a white lie (white lie) is a lie that child for a good purpose, especially if the reason is not hurting the feelings of anyone, or the quiet life - can also be not to say something (hit) for the same reasons]
As for the things you want and the things you need: do you know what the difference between the two? If not, I highly recommend you figure out what is the difference before going into servitude. Sometimes the two are difficult to distinguish, but it becomes important that you do it. Your Master will ensure that we will take care of all your "needs", but He will allow that or not your "want" to your liking. Needs are the necessities of life which is essential for us to stay mentally e fisicamente sani. Essi ci permettono di crescere emotivamente e spiritualmente. Se si riesce a sopravvivere senza qualcosa, allora è un voglio. I voglio di solito sono dati come premio per una buona condotta.
Per essere una schiava, ci saranno molte cose che devi imparare ad accettare dentro di te ed a cui devi adattarti. Il tuo scopo primario nella vita sarà quello di occuparti del piacere del tuo Padrone (sia mentalmente che fisicamente) in qualsiasi modo Egli desideri. Per fare questo, tu dovrai imparare bene come è il tuo Padrone. Trova ciò che piace e ciò che dispiace a Lui. Con questo, non intendo solo sessualmente. Imparerai che il sesso è solo una piccola parte del vostro rapporto. Impara to anticipate every need and desire, without being intrusive. His needs and desires include intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other unique things to remember him - the physical is not the same sex. The physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touching, favorite foods, clothes and colors for example. It will be your job to make sure that his physical pleasures are met in every way. Think about the five senses, and make your environment pleasing to all five. Never forget - the most pleasant thing in your environment dovrresti be you.
As his slave, it is up to you figure out what pleases your Master. He should not Always seek the simplest things - you should have learned. If your glass is empty, you fill quietly and discreetly. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure, not yours. Just because he does not notice and do not praise you does not mean that you're doing it the wrong way. Watch your smile. He is quiet? If he seems happy and contented, then you've done well, and you should bask in His good pleasure. Always remember that you do this for him and not to your satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.
As I said at the beginning of this article, I'm not trying to frighten or to scare them away from the world of D / s (Domination / submission). My goal is to make sure that when you get in our way of life, you do it with eyes wide open, knowing what to expect. The road will not be easy. You will need to relearn much of what you said, once taken for granted: things you do without thinking, just like sitting in a chair. These are habit that not even think. Or rather, we do not think until we find a Master.
Everything else you've learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one in which they take care of you. Most of the decisions (Translator's note: in life in general) are beyond your control and that of your Master. But many choices you will stand still. Most bosses want a slave that is intelligent, has a sense of humor, and a will of its own. There is no pleasure in having a door mat that is only immobille or just walked. He will get bored very quickly. Being yourself is the best advice I've ever been given, and I found that this is absolutely true for me.
You'll find that being a slave is all you've dreamed and much more if you enter this life knowing something more of what to expect. If you want to be in this lifestyle, you'll see that where once only walked through life, time to fly a foot off the ground. Part of you that have never been complete to become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.
My hope is that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering into this lifestyle. Never forget that one of the most important requirements for this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will realize that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will be at peace and able to enter in your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept the collar of a Master, waives all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up a lot more than just give up if you were a submissive. Waives all rights in your life. Slave is not only a word, is a way of life, a well-defined action.
You're right, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I learned to love it.
© 2000 miria_hunter@softhome.net
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