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BDSM is not violence

Writing this blog is taking me to do (or rather to re-do) a whole series of reflections on BDSM in general and this " slogan "seems very appropriate. Some might say that perhaps it is even banale.

Il BDSM non è violenza.

Il BDSM si basa sulla consensualità.

Consensuale significa che sia chi si sottomette che chi domina sono tutti e due daccordo su tutto quello che viene fatto. La sottomessa (o il sottomesso) accetta ciò che il dominante vuole imporgli e il dominante (o la dominate) sceglie e si prende la responsabilità di cosa decide di fare alla sottomessa (o al sottomesso).

Questa è la discriminante tra BDSM e violenza. E' un concetto abbastanza preciso ed è una linea che non deve mai essere oltrepassata.

La violenza può essere sia fisica che psicologica e dicendo violenza io parlo sia di violenza fisica che di violenza psicologica e/o emozionale.

I think there are clear differences between a BDSM situation and a case of violence.

• BDSM is consensual (all participants agree that to happen), while no one is okay with being raped / abused ao / a.
• BDSM is (usually) be prepared and discussed before attention is paid to both what is not acceptable is what is desired and is often discussed with peace of mind even after it happened, while the violence is not talked about ever , did not speak before it happens and after that happened even becomes a taboo subject.
• BDSM After both partners have the impression they feel very good (although the "shares" suffered or done are relatively bloody) violence after a while people feel much worse, especially the person who has suffered as a rule is bad and you feel dirty, guilty and defiled . BDSM
• In one of the two persons before all control of himself (sempre!) and then checking on the partner. While those who commit violence or abuse is almost always out of control, is transported by anger, hatred or other negative emotion and often not even aware of it.
• In all BDSM participants are interested in the needs, desires and limitations of their partners, while those who commit violence shows no interest it needs to, nor to the wishes of the sufferer.
• In BDSM the person who has control of the rule does not use the fears and weaknesses of the partner psychologically or emotionally injure or harm the person who relies on him (or her) while those who try to encourage violence in any possible way out of control and the fears and weaknesses of those being abused / a.
• BDSM is tried by all partners in a conscious way, while violence is never required, especially by those who suffer.
• BDSM can evolve and grow those who practice it, as violence only hurts the people in cruel ways and dragged heavy physical, emotional and emotional which can last for years.
• BDSM is often practiced by people who are part of a community or people which are also known by others and that is not shy about "putting the face in what they do when violence happens in isolation, separate from any other relationship social. Often no one else notice the violence and accomplished, at least for some time.
• BDSM unleashed erotic sensations on the one hand and privacy on the other as violence between the people and it is not erotic.
• Any BDSM practice can and should be discontinued at any time by the sufferer with a single gesture or a word agreed (SafeWord), while those who suffer violence do not have the power to stop what is succedendo.
• Durante le pratiche BDSM i partecipanti di norma non bevono e non assumono droghe, mentre chi ha comportamenti violenti ed incontrollati spesso ha bevuto oppure è sotto l'influenza di stupefacenti.

Voglio sottolineare che tutto questo non è una lista di regole incise su una pietra sacra e non è neppure la mia personale "verità rivelata" dall'alto. Ogni considerazione fatta ha dei motivi precisi (almeno secondo me) e la cosa più importante per ognuno è cercare di cogliere questi motivi e pensarci un poco sopra.

Molte altre persone le hanno fatte prima di me, in questa forma o in una simile. Non sono in grado di citarle tutte, ma riconosco apertamente did not invent anything from these considerations, I just made a personal synthesis of topics can be found online . If you want your own mind you could search with a search engine "BDSM is not violence", "BDSM is not violence" or "BDSM is not abuse", etc..

you of all this what do you think?

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Kung-fu BDSM: knowing how to

The word in Chinese Kung-Fu is not only related to the martial arts, like many of us Westerners think. Its meaning is

"the competence of a person in any business, art or craft, achieved through hard work and practice"

Questo stesso concetto si può applicare alle attività pratiche del BDSM.

Chiunque sia attratto dal BDSM pensa e fantastica su ciò che vorrebbe fare o su quello che vorrebbe subire.

Ogni atto che compiamo o che subiamo ha le sue conseguenze e alcune delle conseguenze delle pratiche BDSM sono potenzialmente molto pericolose.

Se legate una persona nel modo sbagliato, potete addirittura comprimere un nervo lasciando insensibile un braccio o le dita della mano. Dato che questi effetti posso anche essere permanenti sono da evitare assolutamente.

Quindi è necessario imparare a legare in modo da evitare cose del genere.

Una frustata data sulla zona sbagliata del corpo oppure on too strong, can provide internal injuries. Think of a blow given (by mistake?) On the face or in the area of \u200b\u200bthe kidneys. So it is necessary

learn to use a whisk to avoid such things.

Trampling can crush a person's internal organs and cause injury. Think about what happens if the neck is squeezed, which is an extremely critical.

Then you need to learn to make in order to avoid stepping on something.

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No person shall or may have the presumption to be able to run a BDSM practice only because they want to or because they saw her make a video !

Each practice has its own characteristics and each practice is necessary to pay attention to different details but very important to prevent accidents and to play safely.

Personally I know I do not know all these details for all possible practices of BDSM. I know I do not know everything but I also know of several important details of some practices that have performed or on which I have been very well informed.

With great humility in this blog I would like to talk in general safety in BDSM, but also go into detail for several practices that I know because I've personally tried to do it, after I informed and have seen other people who were doing well. In addition I will advise others charged with proven experience regarding the practices that I know less.

Let me be clear: I do not will teach you to do the techniques that I will talk .

will talk about every single technical point of view of safety in its performance, highlighting the details of which to be careful to avoid the worst mistakes and thus to avoid, where possible, to hurt someone or that they should have hurt by someone.

Never play saying "I like this because it goes well, I read about Safe and consensual"!

The RESPONSIBILITY for what you do or do you ever do is yours. No
blog, book, movie or advice you can or should replace your feedback. No
blog, book, movie or board you are replacing your responsibility when you decide to act one way or another.

What I'm trying to do here is give you the encouragement to learn, or if you want, try to convey my personal experience but just to give you the material on which to develop yours.

Power criticize my point of view or what they write, in fact I expected to do so. Each has its own experiences and his trial, and it is wrong to accept criticism without a single point of view. My own:)


JedriK

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Arrogance in BDSM is dangerous

often arrogant attitudes are dominant.

Okay, this can there be in a dominant. Indeed very often like.

For a man submissive what is more exciting than a mistess beautiful, proud and haughty, who treats him like a nonentity? This dynamic relationship is exactly what a lot people want to slave and that's great that the subject will also enjoy the contempt of their goddess in all her fury and splendor.

for a submissive woman what is better than a master demanding, strict and inflexible that the face feel small and protected? This dynamic of a relationship is exactly what many women want to slave and that's great that you should also have submitted the groom and blame their gentleman that fixes firmly and intransigence.

But the arrogance and contempt can lead to other consequences far less pleasing.

Arrogance can be too much or misused.

The arrogance is too much when it becomes total indifference to the health of divers. Think of a

dominated during a time when BDSM game sees its sub turn red in the face and started to gasp, no apparent reason related to the game itself. The normal reaction to all We expect that this ruling is to stop doing what he was doing and try to help the victim who is clearly a health problem. Any person who sees a man gasping and red-faced trying to soccorrelo, he does lie down, asking how he feels, takes action, called an ambulance and accompanied him to the hospital and so on.

Think of a domain that during a time of BDSM play sees his diving double over and hold her stomach in pain, for no apparent reason related to the game itself. Even the normal reaction is that this dominant succor the unfortunate now that obviously is wrong. Any person who sees a woman bent double by a pain in the abdomen and eventually rescued the door in hospital. If a

/ a dominant excess of arrogance ignores a illness of his (or her) subject, this dominance is doing something very wrong and stupid. This seems obvious to anyone. But in the game

BDSM things are more complicated than that. Because a dominant

take the responsibility to do the actions, gestures that are not trivial social interactions.

a whip, a tight rope, a heel down too, an emotional abuse that affects one weakness are all actions that can lead to very unpleasant consequences.

When they happen it is necessary to both take responsibility for possible consequences negative, sia sapere, per quanto è possibile, cosa fare e come.

E' necessario sapere quanta forza applicare, fin dove affondare, in quale modo affondare, quando farlo.

Vista da questa prospettiva, l'arroganza menefreghista di un master troppo duro che non dosa i colpi che  infligge ad una schiava può costare cara. La superbia indifferente di una mistress che veramente non si cura di cosa succede ad uno slave che sta calpestando può essere distruttiva.

Occorre distinguere l'arroganza come stile di comportamento, come atteggiamento nel rapporto dominante / sottomesso dall'arroganza di chi non si cura delle conseguenze fisiche delle sue azioni.

La prima è più indeed it is acceptable that a very exciting aspect of BDSM for all participants.

The second fact is not acceptable is something that everyone should pay close attention. What are dominant, submissive or innocent bystanders, that sort of arrogance should NOT be tolerated.



JedriK


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